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4.Hijab,Why?
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The Hijab .. Why?
Dr: Muhammad Ismail
Translation & Comments
Dr: Saleh As-Saleh
&
"A View Through Hijab"
A Japanese WomanINTRODUCTION
ALL praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds, the Most
Merciful, the Beneficent, and the Master of the Day of
Judgment. O Allah! Have Your Salat(1) and Salam (peace) and
blessing upon Your slave and Messenger Muhammad and
upon all of his companions.
Extraordinary consideration has been given by the Islamic
Law to women's affairs. Such consideration is sufficient to
protect her chastity, to honor her and to secure her position in
life. The "restrictions" placed upon her regarding her dress and
the display of her beauty and ornament is only to guard
against all ways of corruption arising from such dazzling
displays. What Islam has established is not a restriction on
the freedom of women but is a firm protection for her from
falling down to the lowest levels of humility.
In this work, we mention the virtues of a critical aspect of this
protection: the HIJAB. The characteristics of the Hijab are
discussed, bringing the glad tidings promised (by Allah) to
those women adhering to it. We also point out the danger of
dazzling displays of ornaments and beauty as well as the
terrible repercussions in this life and in the hereafter for those
who practice Tabar'roj.
This is the second edition of this book. It comes at a time
when more women are throwing away their revealing clothes,
and wearing the Hijab. It goes to print when Muslim women
are being raped and tom in their Hijabs in "civilized" Europe(2)!
and when France(3) prevents Muslim women from wearing the
Hijab at school. These are times of trials for Muslims and
particularly for Muslim women. We all have to remember the path of the Prophets: endurance, patience, holding on, and
aiming high by keeping the way of Allah above everything.
Allah knows our intentions and He is Sufficient to Us and He
is the Best Guardian.
Shayekh - Dr. Muhammad Bin Ismail
Translator and Commentator: Dr. Saleh As-Saleh
13/6/ 1414 Hj. Nov.26, 1993
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(1) The Salat of Allah upon prophet Muhammad is His Praise and
mentioning of the Prophet to the angels in the Most High place in
Heaven
(2) Bosnia is a testimony against the "civility" of Europe and the West.
Civility stops at the word: Muslim or Islam!
(3) The country that raises the banner of: equality, brotherhood, and
freedom.!!! THE VIRTUES OF HIJAB
(1) AN ACT OF OBEDIENCE
The Hijab is an act of obedience to Allah SW(4) and to His
Messenger Muhammad (SAAW(5)). He (SW) says:
وَﻣَﺎ آَ ﺎ نَ ﻟِ ﻤُ ﺆْ ﻣِ ﻦٍ وَﻟَﺎ ﻣُ ﺆْ ﻣِ ﻨَ ﺔٍ إِذَا ﻗَﻀَﻰ اﻟﻠﱠﻪُ وَ رَ ﺳُ ﻮ ﻟُ ﻪُ
أَﻣْﺮًا أَ نْ ﻳَ ﻜُ ﻮ نَ ﻟَ ﻬُ ﻢُ ا ﻟْ ﺨِ ﻴَ ﺮَ ةُ ﻣِ ﻦْ أَ ﻣْ ﺮِ هِ ﻢْ وَ ﻣَ ﻦْ ﻳَ ﻌْ ﺺِ اﻟﻠﱠﻪَ
وَ رَ ﺳُ ﻮ ﻟَ ﻪُ ﻓَ ﻘَ ﺪْ ﺿَ ﻞﱠ ﺿَﻠَﺎﻟًﺎ ﻣُﺒِﻴﻨًﺎ [اﻷﺣﺰاب، ٣٦]
"It is not for a believer, man or woman,
when Allah and His Messenger have
decreed a matter that they should have
an option in their decision. And
whoever disobeys Allah and His
Messenger, has indeed strayed in a
plain error." (Qur'an 33:36)
Allah (SW) also says:
ﻓَﻠَﺎ وَ رَ ﺑﱢ ﻚَ ﻟَﺎ ﻳُﺆْﻣِﻨُﻮنَ ﺣَﺘﱠﻰ ﻳُ ﺤَ ﻜﱢ ﻤُ ﻮ كَ ﻓِﻴﻤَﺎ ﺷَ ﺠَ ﺮَ
ﺑَ ﻴْ ﻨَ ﻬُ ﻢْ ﺛُ ﻢﱠ ﻟَﺎ ﻳَ ﺠِ ﺪُ و ا ﻓِﻲ أَ ﻧْ ﻔُ ﺴِ ﻬِ ﻢْ ﺣَﺮَﺟًﺎ ﻣِﻤﱠﺎ ﻗَ ﻀَ ﻴْ ﺖَ
وَ ﻳُ ﺴَ ﻠﱢ ﻤُ ﻮ ا ﺗَ ﺴْ ﻠِ ﻴ ﻤً ﺎ [ اﻟﻨﺴﺎء، ٦٥ ]
"But no by your Lord, they can have no
Faith, until they make you
(Muhammad (SAAW)) a judge in all
disputes between them, and find in
themselves no resistance against your
decisions, and accept (them) with full
submission." (Qur'an 4:65)
Indeed,, Allah ordered that women must put on the Hijab(6).
He (SW) says:
وَ ﻗُ ﻞْ ﻟِﻠْﻤُﺆْﻣِﻨَﺎتِ ﻳَ ﻐْ ﻀُﻀْ ﻦَ ﻣِ ﻦْ أَ ﺑْ ﺼَ ﺎ رِ هِ ﻦﱠ وَ ﻳَ ﺤْ ﻔَ ﻈْ ﻦَ
ﻓُ ﺮُ و ﺟَ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ وَﻟَﺎ ﻳُ ﺒْ ﺪِ ﻳ ﻦَ زِ ﻳ ﻨَ ﺘَ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ إِﻟﱠﺎ ﻣَﺎ ﻇَ ﻬَ ﺮَ ﻣِﻨْﻬَﺎ وَ ﻟْ ﻴَ ﻀْ ﺮِ ﺑْ ﻦَ
ﺑِ ﺨُ ﻤُ ﺮِ هِ ﻦﱠ ﻋَﻠَﻰ ﺟُﻴُﻮﺑِﻬِﻦﱠ [اﻟﻨﻮر،٣١] "And tell the believing women to lower
their gaze (from looking at forbidden
things) and protect their private parts
(from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not
to show off their adornment except
what must (ordinarily) appear thereof,
that they should draw their veils over
their Juyubihinna(7)." (Qur'an 24:31).
Allah considered the dazzling display of beauty an act of ignorance:
وَ ﻗَ ﺮْ نَ ﻓِﻲ ﺑُﻴُﻮﺗِﻜُﻦﱠ وَﻟَﺎ ﺗَ ﺒَ ﺮﱠ ﺟْ ﻦَ ﺗَ ﺒَ ﺮﱡ جَ ا ﻟْ ﺠَ ﺎ هِ ﻠِ ﻴﱠ ﺔِ اﻟْﺄُوﻟَﻰ [اﻷﺣﺰاب،٣٣]
"And stay in your houses and do not
display yourselves like that of the times
of Jahiliyeeyah(8) (ignorance). " (Qur'an 33:33)
He, Most Glorified, says:
وَإِذَا ﺳَ ﺄَ ﻟْ ﺘُ ﻤُ ﻮ هُ ﻦﱠ ﻣَ ﺘَ ﺎ ﻋً ﺎ ﻓَ ﺎ ﺳْ ﺄَ ﻟُ ﻮ هُ ﻦﱠ ﻣِ ﻦْ وَ رَ ا ءِ ﺣِ ﺠَ ﺎ بٍ
ذَ ﻟِ ﻜُ ﻢْ أَ ﻃْ ﻬَ ﺮُ ﻟِ ﻘُ ﻠُ ﻮ ﺑِ ﻜُ ﻢْ وَ ﻗُ ﻠُ ﻮ ﺑِ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ [اﻷﺣﺰاب، ٥٣ ]
"And when you ask the Prophet's wives
for anything you want, ask them from
behind a screen." (Qur'an 33:53)
The above Ayah (verse) does not apply only to the Prophet's
wives but to all of the believing women. Carefully read the
following saying of Allah (SW):
ﻳَﺎ أَﻳﱡﻬَﺎ ا ﻟ ﻨﱠ ﺒِ ﻲﱡ ﻗُ ﻞْ ﻟِ ﺄَ زْ وَ ا ﺟِ ﻚَ وَ ﺑَ ﻨَ ﺎ ﺗِ ﻚَ وَ ﻧِ ﺴَ ﺎ ءِ اﻟْﻤُﺆْﻣِﻨِﻴﻦَ
ﻳُﺪْﻧِﻴﻦَ ﻋَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ ﻣِ ﻦْ ﺟَ ﻠَ ﺎ ﺑِ ﻴ ﺒِ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ ذَ ﻟِ ﻚَ أَدْﻧَﻰ أَ نْ ﻳُ ﻌْ ﺮَ ﻓْ ﻦَ ﻓَﻠَﺎ ﻳُ ﺆْ ذَ ﻳْ ﻦَ [اﻷﺣﺰاب،٥٩]
"O Prophet! Tell your wives and your
daughters and the women of the
believers to draw their cloaks (veils)
over their bodies (when outdoors). That
is most convenient that they should be
known and not molested."(9) (Qur'an 33:59)
The Prophet (SAAW) said:
" اﻟﻤَﺮأة ﻋَ ﻮْ ر ةَ "
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(4) SW: Subhanahu Wata'ala, Most Glorified and Most High is He.
(5) SAAW: Salla Allahu Aleihi Wassalam: May the Salat and Salaam
(Peace) of Allah be upon His Prophet Muhammad
(6)This is not something cultural. It is Allah's order. Its conditions are not
Arabian, Egyptian, Pakistani, Black or White American, etc. Its
conditions are specified in the Qur'an and Sunnah to provide a protection
and safeguarding of women. No one knows about what is good for men
and women more than their Creator, Allah. His laws are Wise as it is the
case with all of His actions.
(7) Juyubihinna: The respected scholars from As-Salaf As-Saleh (righteous
predecessors) differed whether the veil cover of the body must include
the hands and face or not. Today, respected scholars say that the hands
and face must be covered. Other respected scholars say it is preferable
for women to cover their whole bodies.
(8) Jahilyeeyah: The days of ignorance prior to the Revelation of the Qur'an.
(9) No one can ignore the molestation of women that exists in the so called
"open" societies. The question is: why it is happening? The answer
begins to shape up when people think about the purpose behind
creation. Allah created us for the single purpose of worshipping Him
alone. He detailed all the ways to fulfill this purpose in the Last
Revelation to all mankind, the Qur'an. In it we can find how women and
men can safeguard their dignity, honor, and morality. The worship of
Allah is manifested in the following of His orders. Allah orders that
men and women must avoid all the roads that lead to animalistic ways of
living. The Hijab is one of Allah's commands. It is an honor and
protection for women as well as a true freedom for her body from the
hands and eyes of aggressors and molesters.
(l0) This hadeeth is narrated by Abdullah bin Masoud and collected by
At-Tirmidhi who said it is Hassan-Ghareeb i.e. good and Ghareeb (The
Ghareeb is a narration by one narrator either in each level of the levels
of the chain of narrators or in some levels of the chain). Also As-Siyouti
hinted that it is authentic. (2) THE HIJAB IS IFFAH (MODESTY):
Allah (SW) made the adherence to the Hijab a manifestation
for chastity and modesty:
ﻳَﺎ أَﻳﱡﻬَﺎ ا ﻟ ﻨﱠ ﺒِ ﻲﱡ ﻗُ ﻞْ ﻟِ ﺄَ زْ وَ ا ﺟِ ﻚَ وَ ﺑَ ﻨَ ﺎ ﺗِ ﻚَ وَ ﻧِ ﺴَ ﺎ ءِ اﻟْﻤُﺆْﻣِﻨِﻴﻦَ
ﻳُﺪْﻧِﻴﻦَ ﻋَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ ﻣِ ﻦْ ﺟَ ﻠَ ﺎ ﺑِ ﻴ ﺒِ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ ذَ ﻟِ ﻚَ أَدْﻧَﻰ أَ نْ ﻳُ ﻌْ ﺮَ ﻓْ ﻦَ ﻓَﻠَﺎ
ﻳُ ﺆْ ذَ ﻳْ ﻦَ [اﻷﺣﺰاب،٥٩]
"O Prophet! Tell your wives and your
daughters and the women of the
believers to draw their cloaks (veils)
over their bodies (when outdoors). That
is most convenient that they should be
known and not molested." (Qur'an 33: 59)
In the above Ayah there is an evidence that the recognition of
the apparent beauty of the woman is harmful to her. When the
cause of attraction ends, the restriction is removed. This is
illustrated in the case of elderly women who may have lost
every aspect of attraction. Allah (SW) made it permissible for
them to lay aside their outer garments and expose their faces
and hands reminding, however, that it is still better for them to
keep their modesty:
وَ ا ﻟْ ﻘَ ﻮَ ا ﻋِ ﺪُ ﻣِ ﻦَ ا ﻟ ﻨﱢ ﺴَ ﺎ ءِ اﻟﻠﱠﺎﺗِﻲ ﻟَﺎ ﻳَ ﺮْ ﺟُ ﻮ نَ ﻧِ ﻜَ ﺎ ﺣً ﺎ
ﻓَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﺲَ ﻋَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ ﺟُ ﻨَ ﺎ حٌ أَ نْ ﻳَ ﻀَ ﻌْ ﻦَ ﺛِ ﻴَ ﺎ ﺑَ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ ﻏَ ﻴْ ﺮَ ﻣُ ﺘَ ﺒَ ﺮﱢﺟَ ﺎ تٍ
ﺑِ ﺰِ ﻳ ﻨَ ﺔٍ وَ أَ نْ ﻳَ ﺴْ ﺘَ ﻌْ ﻔِ ﻔْ ﻦَ ﺧَ ﻴْ ﺮٌ ﻟَ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ وَاﻟﻠﱠﻪُ ﺳَ ﻤِ ﻴ ﻊٌ ﻋَ ﻠِ ﻴ ﻢٌ [اﻟﻨﻮر،٦٠ ]
"And as for women past child-bearing
who do not expect wed-lock, it is no sin
for them if they discard their (outer) in
such a way as not to show their
adornment; but it is best to be modest
and Allah knows and sees all things
provided they do not make a display of
their beauty; but it is best to be modest and Allah knows and sees all
things." (Qur'an 24:60)
So how about young women? Clearly they must stay modest
find not display their beauty.
(3) THE HIJAB IS TAHARA (PURITY)
Allah (SW) had shown us the Hikma (Wisdom) behind the
legislation of the Hijab:
وَإِذَا ﺳَ ﺄَ ﻟْ ﺘُ ﻤُ ﻮ هُ ﻦﱠ ﻣَ ﺘَ ﺎ ﻋً ﺎ ﻓَ ﺎ ﺳْ ﺄَ ﻟُ ﻮ هُ ﻦﱠ ﻣِ ﻦْ وَ رَ ا ءِ ﺣِ ﺠَ ﺎ بٍ
ذَ ﻟِ ﻜُ ﻢْ أَ ﻃْ ﻬَ ﺮُ ﻟِ ﻘُ ﻠُ ﻮ ﺑِ ﻜُ ﻢْ وَ ﻗُ ﻠُ ﻮ ﺑِ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ [اﻷﺣﺰاب، ٥٣]
"And when you ask them (the Prophet's
wives) for anything you want, ask them
from behind a screen, that is purer for
your hearts and their hearts." (Qur'an 33:53)
The Hijab makes for greater purity for the hearts of believing
men and women because it screens against the desire of the
heart. Without the Hijab, the heart may or may not desire.
That is why the heart is more pure when the sight is blocked
(by Hijab) and thus the prevention of fitna (evil actions) is
very much manifested. The Hijab cuts off the ill thoughts and
the greed of the sick hearts:
ﻓَﻠَﺎ ﺗَ ﺨْ ﻀَ ﻌْ ﻦَ ﺑِ ﺎ ﻟْ ﻘَ ﻮْ لِ ﻓَ ﻴَ ﻄْ ﻤَ ﻊَ اﻟﱠﺬِي ﻓِﻲ ﻗَ ﻠْ ﺒِ ﻪِ ﻣَ ﺮَ ضٌ
وَ ﻗُ ﻠْ ﻦَ ﻗَﻮْﻟًﺎ ﻣَﻌْﺮُوﻓًﺎ [اﻷﺣﺰاب، ٣٢]
"Be not soft in speech, lest he in whose
heart is a disease (of hypocrisy or evil
desire for adultery, etc.) should be
moved with desire, but speak in an
honorable manner." (Qur'an 33:32) (4) THE HIJAB IS A SHIELD
The Prophet (SAAW) said:
"إ نﱠ اﷲ ﺣَ ﻴ ﻲٌ ﺳِﺘَّﻴﺮ ﻳُﺤِ ﺐﱡ اﻟﺴِﺘْﺮ "
"Allah, Most High, is Ha'yeii(11), Sit'teer(12), He loves Haya'
(Bashfulness) and Sitr (Shielding; Covering)"(13).
The Prophet (SAAW) also said:
"إﻳﻤﺎ إ ﻣ ﺮ أ ةٌ ﻧَﺰَﻋَﺖ ﺛِﻴﺎﺑَﻬﺎ ﻓﻲ ﻏﻴﺮ ﺑﻴﺖِ أهﻠِﻬﺎ، ﺧَ ﺮَ قَ اﷲ ﻋ ﺰﱠ و ﺟَ ﻞﱠ ﻋَﻨﻬﺎ ﺳِ ﺘْ ﺮِ ه ﺎ "
"Any woman who takes off her clothes in other than her
husband's home (to show off for unlawful purposes). has
broken Allah's shield upon her"(14)
The hadeeth demonstrates that depending upon the kind of
action committed there will be either reward (if good) or
punishment (if bad).
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(11) Ha'yeii: Allah is Bashful: He does not unravel the acts of disobedience
by His slaves. They openly disobey Allah while they are in need of Him,
yet He (being Ha'yeii) is ashamed of humiliating them leaving the door
of repentance opened for them. If, however, they become arrogant and
persist on the spread of evil, and disobedience, Allah certainly is All-Just
in His infliction of punishment.
(12) Sit'teer: Allah is Sit'teer: He provides means that shield against the
uncovering of disobedient acts. The slaves commit acts of disobedience
while Allah is providing them with many of His favors. He (SW) gives
the opportunity for each one of us to return to Him in repentance and to
seek His forgiveness. He loves those who do not like the spread of sin.
He dislikes the Muslim who publicizes his acts of sin and disobedience.
He loves the Muslim who does not unravel the sins of his brother in
Islam while at the same time calls him to repent. The Hijab is something
beloved by Allaah because it is a shield against the spread of evil
manifested in the display of beauty to strangers.
(l3) Collected by Abu Dawoud, An-Nissa'ee, AI-Baihaqee, Ahmed, and in Saheeh An-Nissa'ee.
(14) Collected by Abu Dawoud and At-Tirmidhi who said: it is a good
hadeeth" .
(5) THE HIJAB IS TAQWAH
(RIGHTEOUSNESS)
Allah (SW) says:
ﻳَﺎ ﺑَﻨِﻲ ﺁ دَ مَ ﻗَ ﺪْ أَﻧْﺰَﻟْﻨَﺎ ﻋَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﻜُ ﻢْ ﻟِ ﺒَ ﺎ ﺳً ﺎ ﻳُﻮَارِي ﺳَ ﻮْ ﺁ ﺗِ ﻜُ ﻢْ
وَ رِ ﻳ ﺸً ﺎ وَ ﻟِ ﺒَ ﺎ سُ اﻟﺘﱠﻘْﻮَى ذَ ﻟِ ﻚَ ﺧَ ﻴْ ﺮٌ [اﻷﻋﺮاف، ٢٦]
"O Children of Adam! We have
bestowed raiment upon you to cover
yourselves (screen your private parts,
etc.) and as an adornment. But the
raiment of righteousness, that is
better." (Qur'an 7:26)
The widespread forms of dresses in the world today are mostly
for show off and hardly taken as a cover and shield of the
woman's body. To the believing women, however, the purpose
is to safeguard their bodies and cover their private parts as a
manifestation of the order of Allah. It is an act of Taqwah
(righteousness ).
(6)THE HIJAB IS EEMAN(BELIEF OR
FAITH)
Allah (SW) did not address His Words about the Hijab except
to the believing women, Al-Mo'minat:
وَﻗُﻞ ﻟ ﻠ ﻤُ ﺆ ﻣِ ﻨ ﺎ تِ [اﻟﻨﻮر،٣١]
"And say (O Muhammad (SAAW) to
the believing women." (Qur'an 24: 31) In another Ayah Allah (SW) also says:
و ﻧِ ﺴ ﺂ ءِ اﻟﻤُﺆﻣِﻨﻴﻦ اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻷﺣﺰاب،٥٩]
"And the believing
women" (Qur'an 33: 59).
A'isha (RAA(15)) the wife of the Prophet (SAAW), addressed
some women from the tribe of Banu Tameem who came
visiting her and had light clothes on them:
"If indeed you are believing women, then truly this is not the
dress of the believing women, and if you are not believing
women, then enjoy it."(16)
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(15) RAA: Radiya Allahu anhu (anha or anhum): May Allah be pleased
with him (her or them)
(16) Reported in "Ma'alim As-Sunnan" by Abu Suleiman Al-Khitabi in his
explanation of Sunnan An-Nissa'ee V 4, p.376
(7) THE HIJAB IS HAYA'(BASHFULNESS)
The Prophet (SAAW) said:
"إ نﱠ ﻟِ ﻜُ ﻞَّ دﻳﻦ ﺧُ ﻠُ ﻘ ﺎً ، و ﺧُ ﻠُ ﻖُ اﻹﺳﻼم اﻟﺤﻴﺎء "
"Each religion has a morality and the morality of Islam is
haya' (bashfulness)."(17)
He (SAAW) also said:
"Bashfulness is from belief and belief is in Aj-Jannah
(Paradise)."(18)Furthermore, he (SAAW) said:
"ا ﻟ ﺤ ﻴ ﺎ ءُ و ا ﻹ ﻳ ﻤ ﺎ نُ ﻗُﺮِﻧﺎ ﺟﻤﻴﻌﺎً، ﻓﺈذا رُ ﻓِ ﻊَ أ ﺣَ ﺪُ هُ ﻤ ﺎ رُ ﻓِ ﻊَ اﻵﺧﺮ "
"Bashfulness and belief are fully associated together if one is
lifted the other follows suit."(19)
The mother of the believers, A'isha said: "I used to enter the
room where the Messenger of Allah (SAAW) and my father
were later buried in without having my garment on me,
saying it is only my husband and my father". But when Umar
(RAA) was later buried in (the same place), I did not enter
the room except that I had my garment on being shy from
Umar (RAA)."(20) The Hijab fits the natural bashfulness which
is a part of the nature of women.
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(17) Related by Imam Malik in his "Mu'wata" (2: 905-Arabic). The
hadeeth
chain is Mursal i.e. the chain of narrators is disconnected at one point or
another. For example to say: "On the authority of A, on the authority of
B, on the authority of C that the Prophet said "...." . The hadeeth is
Mursal if for example C did not hear directly from the Prophet. In the
case of the above hadeeth, Ibin Habban connected the chain by two ways
of narrators, both of them are weak.
(18) collected by At-Tirmidhi who said it is: "a good and authentic
hadeeth".
(19) Narrated by Abdul'lah bin Umar as Related by Al-Hakim in his
"Mustadrak" (1/22-Arabic) who said: "it is a good and authentic
Hadeeth….." and Al-Thahabi confirmed Al-Hakim on this.
(20) As-Simt Ath'ameeen Fee Maniqib Ummahat Ul-Mu'mineen, p.91:A
Book by Ibin As-Sakir that represents a collection of the great attributes
of the Mothers of Believers (The wives of the Prophet-SAAW). Al-
Hakim reported a similar narration and said that it is "good according to
the conditions of Imam Bukhari and Imam Mulslim", noting that both
Imams did not discuss the chain of narration itself. Al- Thahabi had no
comment about Al-Hakim's narration. (8) THE HIJAB IS GHEERAH
The Hijab fits the natural feeling of Gheerah which is intrinsic
in the straight man who does not like people to look at his
wife or daughters. Gheerah is a driving emotion that drives
the straight man to safeguard women who are related to him
from strangers. The straight Muslim man has Gheerah for all
Muslim women. Many in the world had lost this great moral
aspect. In response to lust and desire men look (with desire) at
other women while they do not mind that other men do the
same to their wives or daughters! In "free" societies you see
men sitting with strange women who are half-naked
"enjoying" the scene! They introduce their wives to other
strange men. Mutual looks here and there! Affairs develop and
phone calls are exchanged. "Love affairs" destroys many
families and children suffer most. What kind of "love" is this?
The mixing of sexes and absence of Hijab kills the Gheerah in
men. The eyes "eat up" other men and women! The inner
"justification" is: since I can look they can look. It's a " free
choice"!! Few are those who feel anything when they discover
their wives have "affairs". They become numb!! No dignity !
No honor! The bottom line is that in many societies of this
modern World the animalistic behaviors are becoming very
apparent.
Ali (RAA) said: "It was related to me that you women used to
crowd the Kuffar (disbelieving men) from the non-Arabs in
the markets; don't you have Cheerah? There is no good in the
one who does not have Gheerah."
Islam considers Gherrah an integral part of faith .The dignity
of the wife or daughter or any other Muslim woman must be
highly respected and defended. THE DISGRACE OF TABAR'ROJ"21"
(DISPLAY OF WOMAN'S CHARM)
(1)TABAR'ROJ IS A DISOBEDIENCE TO
ALLAH & HIS MESSENGER
The one who disobeys Allah and his Messenger (SAAW) can
only harm himself and cannot in any way harm Allah. The
Messenger of Allah (SAAW) said:
"آُ ﻞﱡ أُﻣّﺘﻲ ﻳَ ﺪ ﺧُ ﻠ ﻮ نَ ا ﻟ ﺠ ﻨﱠ ﺔَ إ ﻻﱠ ﻣﻦ أﺑﻰ" ﻓﻘﺎﻟﻮا: ﻳﺎ رﺳﻮلَ اﷲ ﻣﻦ ﻳﺄﺑﻰ؟ ﻗﺎل: "ﻣﻦ
أﻃﺎﻋﻨﻲ د ﺧ ﻞَ اﻟﺠﻨّﺔ وﻣﻦ ﻋﺼﺎﻧﻲ ﻓﻘﺪ أﺑﻰ "
"All of my followers will enter Aj-Jannah except those who
refuse." They said, "O Allah's Messenger! Who will refuse? "
He said, "Whoever obeys me will enter Aj-Jannah, and
whoever disobeys me is the one who refuses (to enter it)."(21)
It is reported that Mu'awiyah (RAA) gave a sermon in Humss
(Syria) and mentioned that the Prophet (SAAW) prohibited
seven things and that he (SAAW) named Tabar'roj as one of
them(22). Abdullah bin Mas'oud (RAA) reported that the
Prophet (SAAW) "used to dislike ten kinds of behavior and he
(Abdullah) mentioned amongst them: "Tabar'roj by means of
displaying beautification in an improper place."(23) Imam As-
Siyouti, may Allah's mercy be upon him said: "Tabar'roj by
displaying beautification is showing off to strangers and this is
disliked. This is the explanation of "an improper place." It is
not so if the beautification is done for the husband.
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(21) Saheeh Al-Bukhari (English-Arabic, Dar Al-Arabia, Publ.
Beirut,
Lebanon), V.9, hadeeth # 384, p.284
(22) Related by Imam Ahmed in his Mussnad 4/101-Arabic.
(23) Related by An-Nissa'ee in his " Sunan "Arabic 8/141. (2) TABAR'ROJ IS A GRAVE
DESTRUCTIVE SIN
Umay'mah, the daughter of Ruqay'ah came to the Messenger
of Allah to acknowledge the message of Islam and that he
(SAAW) is the Messenger of Allah (SW). The Prophet
(SAAW) told her: "I give my acknowledgment that you must
not set partners to worship besides Allah and that you don't
steal or commit fornication and adultery, that you don't kill
your child, that you don't commit any falsehood before your
hands and between your legs, that you don't wail, and that
you don't make Tabar'roj like that of Jahilyeeyah(24). It is clear
that the Prophet (SAAW) associated Tabar'roj with grave
destructive sins.
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(24) Related by Imam Ahmed in his "Mussnad" 2/196. The scholar Ahmed
Shaker, may Allah's Mercy be upon him, said : " Its chain of narration is
good". He also said that Ibin Khatheer in his "Tafseer :Explanation of the
Qur'an 8: 327-328" mentioned this hadeeth saying, "its chain of narration
is good" and he related it to At-Tirmidhi, An-Nissa'ee and Ibin Majah.
(3)TABAR'ROJ BRINGS THE CURSE AND
EXPULSION
FROM THE MERCY OF ALLAH.
The Messenger of Allah (SAAW) said:
"ﺳﻴَﻜُﻮنُ ﻓﻲ ﺁﺧِﺮ أُﻣﱠﺘﻲ ﻧ ﺴ ﺎ ءٌ آ ﺎ ﺳِ ﻴ ﺎ تٌ ﻋﺎرﻳﺎتٌ، ﻋﻠﻰ رُ ؤ و ﺳِ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ آ ﺄ ﺳ ﻨِ ﻤَ ﺔِ اﻟﺒُﺨﺖِ،
إﻟﻌَﻨﻮهُﻦّ ﻓ ﺈ ﻧﱠ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ ﻣﻠﻌﻮﻧﺎت "
"There shall be, in the latter part of my nation, women who
are dressed but (in fact) naked, on their heads are humps like
those of Bukht (one kind of camels), curse them for they are
surely cursed."(25) __________ــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــ
(25) At-Tabarani related this hadeeth in "Al-Mu'jam As-Sagheer" p.232
and
Al-Albani said it Saheeh as in his book "The Hijab" p.56. As-Siyouti
related on behalf of Ibin Abdul'barr that: "The Prophet (SAAW) intended
women who put on light clothes that shows off and shapes the body
descriptions. In reality they are naked although they have clothes on them!
".
(4)TABAR'ROJ IS AN ATTRIBUTE OF THE
PEOPLE OF
HELL
The Messenger of Allah (SAAW) said:
"ﺻِﻨﻔﺎن ﻣﻦ أ ه ﻞِ اﻟﻨﱠﺎر ﻟﻢ أرَهُﻤﺎ: ﻗ ﻮ مٌ ﻣﻌَﻬُﻢ ﺳِ ﻴ ﺎ طٌ آﺄذﻧﺎب اﻟﺒَﻘﺮ ﻳﻀﺮِﺑﻮنَ ﺑﻬﺎ
اﻟﻨﱠﺎس، و ﻧِ ﺴ ﺎ ءٌ آ ﺎ ﺳِ ﻴ ﺎ تٌ ﻋﺎرِﻳﺎتٌ، ﻣُﻤﻴﻼتٌ، رُؤوﺳَﻬُﻦﱠ آ ﺄ ﺳ ﻨِ ﻤَ ﺔِ ا ﻟ ﺒُ ﺨ ﺖِ اﻟﻤﺎﺋِﻠﺔ،
ﻳَ ﺪْ ﺧُ ﻠ ﻦِ اﻟﺠﻨﱠﺔَ، وﻻ ﻳَ ﺠِ ﺪْ نَ رﻳﺤَﻬﺎ، و إ نﱠ رﻳﺤَﻬﺎ ﻟَﻴﻮﺟَﺪُ ﻣﻦ ﻣَ ﺴ ﻴ ﺮ ةِ آﺬا وآﺬا "
Of the people of Hell there are two types whom I have never
seen, the one possessing whips like the tail of an ox and they
flog people with them. The second one, women who would be
naked in spite of their being dressed, who are seduced (to
wrong paths) and seduce others with their hair high like
humps. These women would not get into Aj-Jannah and they
would not perceive its odor, although its fragrance can be
perceived from such and such distance.(26)
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(26) Saheeh Muslim (English-Arabic, Published by Dar Al-Arabia, Beirut.
Lebanon) V. 4 hadeeth # 6840 p. 1486. (5)TABAR'ROJ IS DARKNESS ON THE
DAY OF RESURRECTION
It is related that the Prophet (SAAW) said:
"ﻣَ ﺜَ ﻞُ ا ﻟ ﺮﱠ ا ﻓِ ﻠَ ﺔِ ﻓﻲ ا ﻟ ﺰَّ ﻳ ﻨَ ﺔِ ﻓﻲ ﻏ ﻴ ﺮِ أهﻠِﻬﺎ، آَ ﻤَ ﺜَ ﻞِ ﻇُ ﻠْ ﻤَ ﺔٍ ﻳﻮم اﻟﻘﻴﺎﻣﺔ، ﻧﻮر ﻟﻬﺎ "
The parable of a woman who moves with slow sweeping
motion, trailing her beautified clothes, performing not for her
husband, is like darkness on the Day of Judgment; she has (or
comes with) no light,"(27)
"ﺧَ ﻴْ ﺮُ ﻧِﺴﺎﺋِﻜُﻢ اﻟﻮَدود، اﻟﻮَﻟُﻮد، اﻟﻤُﻮاﺗِﻴﺔ، اﻟﻤُﻮاﺳﻴﺔ، إذا ا ﺗﱠ ﻘ ﻴْ ﻦَ اﷲ، و ﺷَ ﺮّ ﻧِﺴﺎﺋِﻜُﻢ
ﻟ ﻤُ ﺘَ ﺒَ ﺮَّ ﺟ ﺎ ت ا ﻟ ﻤً ﺘَ ﺨَ ﻴَّ ﻼ ت ، و هُ ﻦﱠ اﻟﻤُﻨﺎﻓِﻘﺎت، ﻳَ ﺪ ﺧُ ﻞِ ا ﻟ ﺠ ﻨﱠ ﺔَ ﻣِ ﻨْ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ إ ﻻﱠ ﻣِﺜﻞُ ا ﻟ ﻐُ ﺮ ا بِ
اﻷﻋﺼَﻢ "
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(27) Related by Imam At-Tirmidhi in his "Sunan" # 1167. Al-Albani said it
is a weak hadeeth (See Al-Albani's collection "Ad-Da'eefah" (Collection
of Weak Hadeeths) # 1800. Abu Bakr Bin Arabi, may Allah's Mercy be
upon him, said: "At-Tirmidhi related this hadeeth and said it is weak but
its meaning is correct because the "enjoyment" in disobedience is in fact
torture and suffering……". The meaning indicates that this type of
women will come on the Day of Judgment Blackened in darkness as if
she physically originated from darkness. In contrast, what appears to be
difficult and painful in performance of obedient acts, is a true enjoyment
because of the reward awaiting those who obey Allah and His Messenger
e.g. the odor of the mouth of a fasting Muslim may not be pleasant in
this world. To Allah, however, it is better than the odor of Musk because
the Muslim had obeyed Allah and performed what is due upon him from
fasting. Similarly the woman wearing her Hijab may be looked upon as
"reactionary, old fashioned, a walking tent! etc." She is the winner on the
Day of Judgment and those who mock her put themselves on a dangerous
road. They may be subjected to the wrath of Allah. (6)TABAR'ROJ IS NIFAQ (HYPOCRISY)
The Prophet (SAAW) said:
"The best of your women is the affectionate , the fertile (in
productivity), the propitious (favorable), the consultative if
they fear Allah. the Most evil of your women are the
Mutabar'rijat (those who do Tabar'roj), the Mutakhayelat
(who strut/swagger), and they are the hypocrite ones. Those
who enter Aj-Jannah are like the Cough Crow."(28) The Cough
Crow has a red beak and red legs. This is an expression of
metonymy indicating that few women enter Heaven because
this kind of crow is rare.
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(28) Reported by Al-Baihaqi in "As-Sunan" V.7 p.82. Also reported by
Abu Na'eem in "Al-Hiliyah" V. 8, p. 376 with a reference to Abdullah
bin Masoud (RAA) as the narrator. See also Al-Albani's "Chain of
Authentic Hadeeths - Arabic" # 1849 and 632.
(7) TABAR'ROJ IS DISGRACEFUL
The Prophet (SAAW) said:
"أَﻳﱡﻤَﺎ ا ﻣ ﺮ أ ةٍ وَﺿَﻌَﺖ ﺛِﻴﺎﺑَﻬﺎ ﻓﻲ ﻏ ﻴ ﺮِ ﺑﻴﺖِ زَوﺟِﻬﺎ، ﻓﻘﺪ هﺘَﻜَﺖ ﺳِ ﺘ ﺮَ ﻣﺎ ﺑﻴﻨﻬﺎ وﺑﻴﻦ اﷲ ﻋ ﺰﱠ و ﺟَﻞﱠ "
"Any woman who takes off her clothes in other than her
husbands home (to show off for an unlawful purpose), has
broken the shield between her and Allah."(29) Imam Al-
Man'nawi, may Allah have Mercy upon him, said: "the saying
of the Prophet (SAAW) ' any woman who takes off her clothes
in other than her husbands home' means showing off her
beauty to strangers by taking off her shield of clothes. She
"has broken the shield between her and Allah" because Allah
had said: ﻳَﺎ ﺑَﻨِﻲ ﺁ دَ مَ ﻗَ ﺪْ أَ ﻧْﺰَﻟْﻨَﺎ ﻋَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﻜُ ﻢْ ﻟِ ﺒَ ﺎ ﺳً ﺎ ﻳُﻮَارِي
ﺳَ ﻮْ ﺁ ﺗِ ﻜُ ﻢْ وَ رِ ﻳ ﺸً ﺎ وَﻟِﺒَﺎسُ اﻟﺘﱠﻘْﻮَى ذَ ﻟِ ﻚَ ﺧَ ﻴْ ﺮٌ
اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻷﻋﺮاف،٢٦]
"O children of Adam! We have
bestowed raiment upon 'you to cover
yourselves (screen your private parts
etc.) and as an adornment. But the
raiment of righteousness, that is
better."(Qur'an 7:26)
So if a woman does not fear Allah and uncover her private
parts then she is breaking the shield between her and Allah,
Most High. And because she uncovered and dishonored
herself and committed a treason with her husband, Allah will
uncover her shield, she will be in a scandal... "
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(29) Related by Imam Ahmed and Al-Hakim in his "Mustadrek" (Arabic)
V.4, p.288 who said it is Saheeh (authentic) according to the conditions
of Muslim and Al-Bukhari, and Ad-Dahabi agreed as well as Ibin Majah.
(8) TABAR'ROJ IS AN UNCHASTE AND
DISGRACEFUL SIN
The woman is A'wrah, All of her body is not to be shown(30)
To wear the clothes that show off and shapes her body
features is disgraceful and Allah (SW) orders His slaves to
stay away from disgraceful sins:
وَإِذَا ﻓَ ﻌَ ﻠُ ﻮ ا ﻓَ ﺎ ﺣِ ﺸَ ﺔً ﻗَﺎﻟُﻮا وَﺟَﺪْﻧَﺎ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻬَﺎ ﺁﺑَﺎءَﻧَﺎ وَاﻟﻠﱠﻪُ
أَﻣَﺮَﻧَﺎ ﺑِﻬَﺎ ﻗُ ﻞْ إِ نﱠ اﻟﻠﱠﻪَ ﻟَﺎ ﻳَ ﺄْ ﻣُ ﺮُ ﺑِﺎﻟْﻔَﺤْﺸَﺎءِ أَ ﺗَ ﻘُ ﻮ ﻟُ ﻮ نَ ﻋَﻠَﻰ
اﻟﻠﱠﻪِ ﻣَﺎ ﻟَﺎ ﺗَ ﻌْ ﻠَ ﻤُ ﻮ نَ [اﻷﻋﺮاف،٢٨]
"When they commit a Fahisha (evil
deed, going round the Ka'ba in naked state as in the times of Jahilyeeyah,
every kind of unlawful sexual
intercourse etc.), they say: 'We found
our fathers doing it and Allah has
commanded us of it.' Say: "Nay, Allah
never commands of Fahisha. Do you
say of Allah what you know not?"
(Qur'an 7:28)
It is Shaytan (Satan) who orders such disgraceful sins. Allah
(SW) says:
ا ﻟ ﺸﱠ ﻴْ ﻄَ ﺎ نُ ﻳَ ﻌِ ﺪُ آُ ﻢُ ا ﻟْ ﻔَ ﻘْ ﺮَ وَ ﻳَ ﺄْ ﻣُ ﺮُ آُ ﻢْ ﺑِﺎﻟْﻔَﺤْﺸَﺎءِ
اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻟﺒﻘﺮة، ٢٦٨]
"Shaytan threatens you with poverty
and orders you to commit sins. "(Qur'an 2: 268)
The Mutabar'rigah is a sinful virus that spreads disgraceful
sins amongst the Muslim society. Allah, the Most High, says:
إِ نﱠ ا ﻟﱠ ﺬِ ﻳ ﻦَ ﻳُﺤِﺒﱡﻮنَ أَن ﺗَ ﺸِ ﻴ ﻊَ ا ﻟ ﻔَ ﺎ ﺣِ ﺸَ ﺔُ ﻓِﻲ ا ﻟﱠ ﺬِ ﻳ ﻦَ ﺁﻣَﻨُﻮا
ﻟَ ﻬُ ﻢْ ﻋَ ﺬَ ا بٌ أَ ﻟِ ﻴ ﻢٌ ﻓِﻲ اﻟﺪﱡﻧْﻴَﺎ وَ ا ﻵ ﺧِ ﺮَ ةِ وَاﻟﻠﱠﻪُ ﻳَ ﻌْ ﻠَ ﻢُ وَ أَ ﻧْ ﺘُ ﻢْ
ﻻَ ﺗَ ﻌْ ﻠَ ﻤُ ﻮ نَ [اﻟﻨﻮر،١٩]
"Verily, those who like, that (the crime
of) illegal sexual intercourse should be
propagated among those who believe,
they will have a painful torment in this
world and in the Hereafter. And Allah
knows and you know not." (Qur'an 24:19)
Tabar'roj is a leading cause for the spread of Zina (illegal
sexual intercourse).
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(30) See footnote # 7. (9) TABAR'ROJ IS A SATANIC WAY
The story of Adam and his wife demonstrates how the enemy
of Allah, Satan, was so covetous to incite them to show their
private parts in order to spread evil and disgraceful sins. It
also shows that the Tabar'roj of women is a primary goal for
Shaytan to achieve. Allah (SW) says:
ﻳَﺎ ﺑَﻨِﻲ ﺁ دَ مَ ﻗَ ﺪْ أَﻧْﺰَﻟْﻨَﺎ ﻋَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﻜُ ﻢْ ﻟِ ﺒَ ﺎ ﺳً ﺎ ﻳُﻮَارِي
ﺳَ ﻮْ ﺁ ﺗِ ﻜُ ﻢْ وَ رِ ﻳ ﺸً ﺎ وَ ﻟِ ﺒَ ﺎ سُ اﻟﺘﱠﻘْﻮَى ذَﻟِ ﻚَ ﺧَ ﻴْ ﺮٌ اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻷﻋﺮاف،٢٦]
"O children of Adam! We have
bestowed raiment upon you to cover
yourselves (screen your private parts
etc.) and as an adornment. But the
raiment of righteousness, that is
better." (Qur'an 7:26)
It is clear that Satan is the one who established the call for
Tabar'roj and show off and that he is the leader of those "
leaders " who call for the "liberation of women". Satan is the
"Imam" of everyone who obeys and follows him in
disobedience to Allah (The Most Merciful), especially those
Mutabar'rijat who harm the Muslims and deceive their youth.
The Prophet ( SAAW) said:
ﻣﺎ ﺗَ ﺮَ آْ ﺖً ﺑَﻌﺪي ﻓﺘﻨﺔً ه ﻲَ أ ﺿَ ﺮُ ﻋﻠﻰ اﻟﺮﺟﺎلِ ﻣﻦ اﻟﻨِﺴﺎء " "
"I have not left after me any (chance) of turmoil more harmful
to men than the harm done to the men because of women.(31)
Adam forgot, made a mistake, repented and asked forgiveness
from Allah and Allah the Oft-Forgiving accepted Adam's
repentance. The struggle between Adam's off-springs and
Shaytan continues. The devil still whispers to drive us , men
and women, to disobey Allah and follow sin. There is no safeguard except in the return to Allah in good faith and
repentance, remembering Allah, asking His help to overcome
lust and desire.
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(31) Saheeh Muslim (English translation; published by Dar Al-Arabia) V.
4, hadeeth # 6603, p. 1431
(10) TABAR'ROJ IS THE WAY OF JEWS
Jews have an important role in the destruction of nations
through the Fitna. (seduction/temptation) of women. The
spread of Tabar'roj is an effective weapon of their widespread
establishments. They have an extensive experience in this
field. One should look around only to see who runs Hollywood
and famous Houses of "Fashions" and "Magazines" as well as
the world of advertisement!. R-rated, X-rated movies and
clothes are widespread. In fact the Prophet ( SAAW) said:
"ﻓﺎﺗﱠﻘُﻮا اﻟُﺪﻧﻴﺎ، واﺗﱠﻘﻮا اﻟﻨﺴﺎء، ﻓ ﺈ نﱠ أولَ ﻓﺘﻨﺔِ ﺑﻨﻲ إﺳﺮاﺋﻴﻞ آﺎﻧﺖ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻨﺴﺎء "
"Watch out for this worldly life (safeguard yourselves from
its temptations); avoid the allurement of women: verily, the
first trial for the people of Israel was caused by women.(32)
Their Books also testify to this fact. In the Third Chapter of
Isaiah ( 16, 17):
"The Lord said: "Because the daughters of Zion are haughty
and walk with necks outstretched ogling and mincing as they
go, their anklets tinkling with every step. The Lord shall cover
the scalps of Zion's daughters with scabs, and the Lord shall
bare their heads." Furthermore, "On that day the Lord will do
away with the finery of the anklets, sunbursts, and crescents;
the pendants, bracelets, and veils; the headdresses, bangles,
cinctures, perfume boxes, and amulets; the signet rings, and
the rose rings; the court dresses, wraps, cloaks, and purses; the mirrors,.." (Isaiah, 3, 18-23; The New American Bible).
Although the Prophet (SAAW) warned against mimicking the
Kuffar (non-believers) and their ways, especially the ways of
women. Many Muslims do not abide by this warning(33). This
is a testimony for the prophecy of the Prophet (SAAW) who said:
"ﻟ ﺘَ ﺘﱠ ﺒِ ﻌَ ﻦﱠ ﺳَ ﻨَ ﻦَ ﻣﻦ آ ﺎ نَ ﻗﺒﻠَﻜُﻢ ﺷ ﺒ ﺮ اً ﺑِﺸﺒﺮ و ذ ر ا ﻋ ﺎً ﺑﺬراع، ﺣﺘﱠﻰ ﻟﻮ دَ ﺧَ ﻠُ ﻮ ا ﺟُ ﺤ ﺮَ ﺿَ ﺐٍ
ﻟﺘَﺒﻌﺘُﻤﻮهُﻢ، ﻗﻴﻞ: اﻟﻴﻬﻮد واﻟﻨﺼﺎرى؟ ﻗﺎل: ﻓﻤﻦ؟ "
"You would tread the same path as was trodden by those
before you inch by inch and step by step so that if they had
entered into the hole of a Dhab (a desert lizard), you would
follow them in this also. We said: Allah's Messenger, do you
mean Jews and Christians (by your words)" those before
you"? he said: Who else (than those two religious groups).(34)
The similarity of those women who disobey Allah and his
Messenger to the Jews is very evident because their response
to Allah's commands was similar to that of the Jews:
ﻗﺎﻟﻮا ﺳَﻤِﻌﻨﺎ وَﻋَﺼَﻴﻨﺎ اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻟﺒﻘﺮة،٩٣]
"We have heard and disobeyed"
(Qur'an 2: 93)
This is unlike the response of the believing women:
وﻗﺎﻟﻮا ﺳَﻤِﻌﻨﺎ وَأﻃَﻌﻨﺎ اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻟﺒﻘﺮة، ٢٨٥]
"We hear and we obey." (Qur'an 2: 285)
They remember the saying of Allah:
وَ ﻣَ ﻦْ ﻳُ ﺸَ ﺎ ﻗِ ﻖِ اﻟﺮﱠﺳُﻮلَ ﻣِ ﻦْ ﺑَ ﻌْ ﺪِ ﻣَﺎ ﺗَ ﺒَ ﻴﱠ ﻦَ ﻟَ ﻪُ اﻟْﻬُﺪَى
وَ ﻳَ ﺘﱠ ﺒِ ﻊْ ﻏَ ﻴْ ﺮَ ﺳَ ﺒِ ﻴ ﻞِ اﻟْﻤُﺆْﻣِﻨِﻴﻦَ ﻧُ ﻮَ ﻟﱢ ﻪِ ﻣَﺎ ﺗَﻮَﻟﱠﻰ وَ ﻧُ ﺼْ ﻠِ ﻪِ ﺟَ ﻬَ ﻨﱠ ﻢَ
وَ ﺳَ ﺎ ءَ تْ ﻣَ ﺼِ ﻴ ﺮً ا [اﻟﻨﺴﺎء، ١١٥] "And whoever contradicts and opposes
the Messenger (Muhammad-SAAW)
after the right path has been shown
clearly to him, and follows other than
the believers' way, We shall keep him
in the path he has chosen and burn
him in Hell; what an evil destination!"
(Qur'an 4: 115)
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(32) Ibid, footnote # 31; Hadeeth # 6606, p.1432
(33) It is sad to see many who dislike the Kuffar in certain ways imitate
them in their ways of living thinking that their materialistic progress
could not be achieved except in acting, dressing, eating, jogging,
sleeping ..like them. The true Muslim, however, remembers that any
progress must meet the purpose for our presence on earth: all action must
be related to the worship of Allah. The Kuffar have taken some of the
means which Allah had created and used it for worldly gains. We are
ordered to make the means adhere to the purpose of our creation: the
worship of Allah Alone and thus uses the means to defend Islam and
Muslims and secure the needs of life as well. Why should some of us
dress the way Allah ordered and some does not? Should we choose
Allah's way or the Kuffar way? All the success is measured by one
criterion: does it meet the pleasure of Allah or not?
(34) A famous and Saheeh hadeeth reported by Al-Bukhari, Muslim and
others. The text here is as reported in Saheeh Muslim V. 4, hadeeth #
6448, p.1403(11)TABAR'ROJ IS A FILTHY
JAHILYEEYAH (IGNORANCE)
Allah (SW) says:
وَ ﻗَ ﺮْ نَ ﻓِﻲ ﺑُﻴُﻮﺗِﻜُﻦﱠ وَﻟَﺎ ﺗَ ﺒَ ﺮﱠ ﺟْ ﻦَ ﺗَ ﺒَ ﺮﱡ جَ ا ﻟْ ﺠَ ﺎ هِ ﻠِ ﻴﱠ ﺔِ
اﻟْﺄُوﻟَﻰ [اﻷﺣﺰاب،٣٣]
"And stay in your houses and do not
display yourselves like that of the times
of ignorance" (Qur'an 33:33)
The Prophet (SAAW) described the times of ignorance as
filthy and wicked and ordered us to reject it. Allah (SW)
described the Prophet (SAAW) as :
وَ ﻳُ ﺤِ ﻞﱡ ﻟَ ﻬُ ﻢُ اﻟﻄﱠﻴﱢﺒَﺎتِ وَ ﻳُ ﺤَ ﺮﱢ مُ ﻋَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﻬِ ﻢُ ا ﻟ ﺨَ ﺒَ ﺎ ﺋِ ﺚَ
اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻷﻋﺮاف،١٥٧]
"He allows them as lawful At-Tayyibat
(all i.e. good and lawful as regards
things, deeds, beliefs, persons, foods,
etc.), and prohibits them as unlawful
Al-Khaba'ith (all i.e. evil and unlawful
as regard things, deeds, beliefs,
persons, foods, etc.)" (Qur'an 7: 157)
The call to bring about the times of Jahilyeeyah is similar to
the call for Tabar'roj, both of which are wicked ways that the
Messenger (SAAW) made unlawful. He (SAAW) said:
"آُ ﻞﱞ ﺷ ﻲ ءٍ ﻣﻦ أﻣﺮ ا ﻟ ﺠ ﺎ ه ﻠِ ﻴﱠ ﺔِ ﻣ ﻮ ﺿُ ﻮ عٌ ﺗ ﺤ ﺖَ ﻗَ ﺪَ ﻣَ ﻲﱠ "
"Verily! every matter of Jahilyeeyah is under my feet!"(35)
Tabar'roj and all forms of Jahilyeeyah such as false pride and haughtiness, ill thoughts about Allah, call for falsehood,
setting up rivals with Allah, ruling by other than the laws of
Islam, usury, etc., are all included.
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(35) Related by Abu Dawoud, At-Tirmidhi, Ibin Majah, and Ad-Darime'i
and Imam Ahmed.
(12)TABAR'ROJ IS AN ANIMAL ACT,
RETARDATION
(DECADENCE) AND DECLINE
To reveal and expose are natural behaviors of animals.
Whenever man inclines towards such behaviors he starts his
decline to a level lower than the level of manhood which Allah
had bestowed upon him. Allah bestowed a natural inclination
(Fitrah) towards covering, preservation, and safeguarding
modesty. To consider the acts of display, exposition, and
uncovering as acts of beauty reflects a corruption to the Fitrah
and a degeneration in taste and a sign of decadence and
decline.
The progress of man's civility is linked to his/her covering of
the body. The Hijab cover is fitting to the instinct of Gheerah
which draws its strength from the soul. The so called
"liberation from the chains of covering" is an instinct that
draws its strength from lust which incites Tabar'roj and
mixing of the sexes. The one who is satisfied with this latter
instinct must sacrifice the first one in order to silence the
voice of the innate Gheerah in his heart in return for the
"enjoyment" of Tabar'roj and mixing. From this we
understand that the Tabar'roj is a sign of corruption of Fitrah,
lack of bashfulness, Gheerah, and insensitivity.(13) TABAR'ROG IS A DOOR TO
WIDESPREAD EVIL
Anyone who carefully examines the Islamic Texts (Qur'an and
Sunnah) and the lessons of history, becomes convinced about
the evils of Tabar'roj and its harm, both on religious and
worldly matters especially when it is associated with the
mixing of sexes. Some of its underlying consequences are:
ˆ The Competition Amongst the Displaying Women in
Showing Off Their Beauty{tc \l 3 "A \:) The Competition
Amongst the Displaying Women in Showing Off Their
Beauty"}. This is seduction, and it leads to the spoiling of
morality and leaves women as merchandise articles exhibited
for anyone to look at.
ˆ The Corruption of the Morality of Men, Especially
the Youth and Those in Adolescence. It pushes them to
commit various kinds of sins(36).
ˆ The Destruction of Family Ties and Causing a Lack
of Trust Between Family Members and the Spread of
Divorce.
ˆ The Commercial Abuse of Women In The World of
Advertisement, Entertainment And Other Areas As Well.
ˆ Doing Harm to Women by Declaring Their Ill
Intentions and Evil Conscience Thus Rendering Her
Venerable To Harm By The Wicked And The Insolent.
ˆ The Spread of Diseases.The Prophet (SAAW) said:
"ﻟﻢ ﺗ ﻈ ﻬَ ﺮِ ا ﻟ ﻔ ﺎ ﺣِ ﺸَ ﺔُ ﻓﻲ ﻗ ﻮ مٍ ﻗﻂ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻳُﻌﻠﻨﻮا ﺑﻬﺎ إ ﻻﱠ ﻓﺸﺎ ﻓﻴﻬُﻢ اﻟﻄﺎﻋُﻮن واﻷوﺟﺎع اﻟﺘﻲ
ﻟﻢ ﺗَﻜُﻦ ﻓﻲ أﺳﻼﻓِﻬِﻢ اﻟﺬﻳﻦ ﻣَﻀَﻮْا "
"Sins didn't spread in any particular nation until they openly
conduct it and as a result, plague and other illnesses that
were not present among their predecessors became
widespread amongst them."(37)
ˆ Facilitates The Sin of Zina (Fornication) By The Eye.
The Prophet (SAAW) said:
"ا ﻟ ﻌَ ﻴْ ﻨ ﺎ نِ زِﻧﺎهُﻤﺎ اﻟﻨﱠﻈَﺮ "
"The adultery of the eyes is the lustful look. ."(38)
ˆ Tabar'roj Makes it Difficult to Lower The Gaze.
ˆ Justifiably Brings Down Allah's Punishment
The punishment of Allah is more severe than atomic bombs
and earthquakes. Allah (SW) says:
وَإِذَا أَرَدْﻧَﺎ أَ نْ ﻧُ ﻬْ ﻠِ ﻚَ ﻗَ ﺮْ ﻳَ ﺔً أَﻣَﺮْﻧَﺎ ﻣُ ﺘْ ﺮَ ﻓِ ﻴ ﻬَ ﺎ ﻓَ ﻔَ ﺴَ ﻘُﻮا
ﻓِﻴﻬَﺎ ﻓَ ﺤَ ﻖﱠ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻬَﺎ ا ﻟْ ﻘَ ﻮْ لُ ﻓَ ﺪَ ﻣﱠ ﺮْ ﻧَ ﺎ هَ ﺎ ﺗَ ﺪْ ﻣِ ﻴ ﺮً ا [اﻹﺳﺮاء،١٦]
"And when We(39) decide to destroy a
town (population), We (first) send a
definite order (to obey Allah and be
righteous) to those among them [or We
(first) increase in number those of its
Population] who are given the good
things in this life. Then, they transgress
therein, and thus the word (of torment)
is justified against it (them). Then We
destroy it with complete destruction."
(Qur'an 17: 16) The Prophet (SAAW) said:
"إ نﱠ ا ﻟ ﻨﱠ ﺎ سَ إذا رأوا ا ﻟ ﻤً ﻨ ﻜَ ﺮَ ﻓَﻠَﻢ ﻳُﻐﻴَّﺮوﻩً أوﺷﻚ أن ﻳَﻌُﻤﱠﻬُﻢ اﷲ ﺑِﻌَﺬاب "
"When people see wrong (or evil) and they don't change it,
then it is imminent that the punishment of Allah will fall upon
them.(40)
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(36) You may have seen teen-age kids on the corners of many streets in
Europe and in North America rooming around, smoking to get high, half
naked, and on drugs looking to engage in sex. Why? What happened?
Many try to hide from the hard facts! The drive for lust and materialistic
life became the "god" of the new generations: the Pepsi-Michael-MTV-
Jackson generations. The result: AIDS and other sexually transmitted
diseases.
(37) Part of a lengthy hadeeth related by Ibin Majah, Abu Na'eem, and Al-
Hakim who said: "it has a good chain of narrators". Ad-Dahabi agreed to
Al-Hakim's report.
(38) Saheeh Muslim V.4, hadeeth # 6421 p. 1397
(39) Plural Pronoun: Is used to stress the Greatness and Power of Allah
Who is One. It is common with Semitic languages for any Monarch to
use Plural Pronoun. It is also used by members of the Royal Family in
England. To Allah, however, belong the Highest and most Perfect
Example.
(40) Related by Abu Dawoud, At-Tirmidhi, Ibin Majah and lmam Ahmed. THE OBLIGATORY CONDITIONS FOR AN
ISLAMIC HIJAB
(1) COVERING ALL OF THE BODY
This respected author is in agreement with the position that
the face and hands of the woman must be covered as he has
detailed this in discussions of the Hijab issues in his book:
"The Return of the Hijab, Part 3". Some scholars say it is
permissible to uncover the face and the hands of the woman as
long as there is no fitna (infatuation) caused by her or inflicted
upon her. They see that if: a) she is beautiful and beautifies
her face and hands with external substances, and b) the
society around her is corrupt where men do not lower their
gaze, then it is prohibited for her to uncover her face and hands.
(2) THE HIJAB MUST NOT BE A DISPLAY
The Hijab itself must not be a display. Allah ordained it so as
to cover the beauty of women and not for show off. He (SW)
says:
وَﻟَﺎ ﻳُﺒْﺪِﻳﻦَ زِ ﻳ ﻨَ ﺘَ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ إِﻟﱠﺎ ﻣَﺎ ﻇَ ﻬَ ﺮَ ﻣِﻨْﻬَﺎ اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻟﻨﻮر،٣١]
"And not to show of their adornment
except only that which is apparent."
(Qur'an 24: 31)
وَ ﻗَ ﺮْ نَ ﻓِﻲ ﺑُﻴُﻮﺗِﻜُﻦﱠ وَﻟَﺎ ﺗَ ﺒَ ﺮﱠ ﺟْ ﻦَ ﺗَ ﺒَ ﺮﱡ جَ ا ﻟْ ﺠَ ﺎ هِ ﻠِ ﻴﱠ ﺔِ اﻟْﺄُوﻟَﻰ [اﻷﺣﺰاب،٣٣]
"And stay in your houses and do not
display yourselves like that of the times
of ignorance." (Qur'an 33:33)
It is not logical that the Hijab itself be a source of display.(41)
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the purity of the Hijab and its essence.
(3) THE HIJAB MUST NOT BE
TRANSPARENT
The purpose must be achieved. In order for the Hijab to be a
cover, it must not be made of transparent material making the
woman covered only by name(!)while in reality she is naked.
The Prophet (SAAW) said:
"ﺳﻴَﻜُﻮنُ ﻓﻲ ﺁﺧِﺮ أُﻣﱠﺘﻲ ﻧ ﺴ ﺎ ءٌ آ ﺎ ﺳِ ﻴ ﺎ تٌ ﻋﺎرﻳﺎتٌ، ﻋﻠﻰ رُ ؤ و ﺳِ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ آ ﺄ ﺳ ﻨِ ﻤَ ﺔِ اﻟﺒُﺨﺖِ،
إﻟﻌَﻨﻮهُﻦّ ﻓ ﺈ ﻧﱠ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ ﻣﻠﻌُﻮﻧﺎت "
"In the latest part of my Omaha (nation of Muslims) there
shall be women who would be naked in spite of being dressed,
they have hair high like the humps of the Bukht camel, curse
them, for they are cursed"(42). He (SAAW ) added in another
hadeeth:
" ﻳَ ﺪْ ﺧُﻠْ ﻦَ ا ﻟ ﺠ ﻨﱠﺔَ وﻻ ﻳَ ﺠِ ﺪْ نَ رﻳﺤَﻬﺎ، و إ نﱠ رﻳﺤَﻬﺎ ﻟَ ﻴُﻮ ﺟَ ﺪُ ﻣﻦ ﻣَ ﺴ ﻴ ﺮ ةِ آَﺬا آَﺬا "
"They will not enter Aj-Jannah and would not perceive its
odor, although its fragrance can be perceived from such and
such distance.(43)
This indicates that a woman could cause herself a grave and
destructive sin if she puts on a garment that is thin and
transparent and which clearly shapes her body's features.
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(42) At-Tabarani reported it and Al-Albani in his book "Al-Hijab" said it is
authentic.
(42) see footnote # 25 (4)HIJAB MUST BE ROOMY, FLOWING AND
NOT TIGHT
The Hijab is a safeguard against Fitna. If tight, it will be
descriptive of the woman's body and this violates the purpose
of Hijab. Usamma Bin Zaid (RAA) said:
"آَﺴﺎﻧﻲ ر ﺳ ﻮ لً اﷲ- ﺻﻠﻰ اﷲ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ وﺳﻠﱠﻢ- ﻗُﺒﻄِﻴﱠﺔ آَﺜ ﻔﺔ ﻣﻤ أهﺪاهَﺎ ﻟﻪ دِ ﻴﺔ
اﻟﻜَﻠﺒﻲ، ﻓﻜَﺴَﻮﺗُﻬﺎ اﻣﺮأﺗﻲ، ﻓﻘﺎل "ﻣﺎﻟﻚَ ﻟﻢ ﺗَﻠﺒِﺲ اﻟﻘُﺒﻄﻴﱠﺔ؟" ﻗﻠﺖ: آَﺴَﻮﺗُﻬﺎ اﻣﺮأﺗﻲ،
ﻓﻘﺎل: "ﻣُﺮهﺎ ﻠَﺘﺠ ﻌَ ﺗَﺤﺘَﻬﺎ ﻏُﻼﻟﺔ وهﻲ ﺷِ ﻌ ﺎ رٌ ﻳُﻠﺒِﺲ ﺗ ﺤ ﺖَ اﻟﺜﻮب ﻓﺈﻧﻲ أﺧﺎف أن
ﺗَ ﺼِ ﻒَ ﺣ ﺠ ﻢَ ﻋِﻈﺎﻣﻬﺎ "
"The Messenger of Allah (SAAW) dressed me with a thick
Qubtyeeyah (cotton dress from Egypt) which was a gift that
he received from Duhia Al-Kalbi. So I gave it to my wife to
wear. He (SAAW) said : "What made you not to wear the
ﻓﻘﺎل: "ﻣُﺮهﺎ ﻓﻠَﺘﺠﻌَﻞ ﺗَﺤﺘَﻬﺎ ﻏُﻼﻟﺔ وهﻲ ﺷِ ﻌ ﺎ رٌ ﻳُﻠﺒِﺲ ﺗ ﺤ ﺖَ اﻟﺜﻮب ﻓﺈﻧﻲ أﺧﺎف أن
ﺗَ ﺼِ ﻒَ ﺣ ﺠ ﻢَ ﻋِﻈﺎﻣﻬﺎ "
"The Messenger of Allah (SAAW) dressed me with a thick
Qubtyeeyah (cotton dress from Egypt) which was a gift that
he received from Duhia Al-Kalbi. So I gave it to my wife to
wear. He (SAAW) said : "What made you not to wear the
Qubtyeeyah?" I said: "I dressed my wife with it. " He (SAAW)
said: " Order her to put an undergarment (or gown) under it,
because I am afraid it may describe the size of her bones.(44)
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(44) Reported by Ad'Diya' Al-Maqdissi, Imam Ahmed, At-Tabarani, Al-
Baihaqi, and Ibin Sa'd. It is also reported that Al-Haithami said:
"amongst the chain of narrators is Abdullah Ibin Aqeel whose narrations
are good; yet according to some scholars there is Da'ff (weakness)
associated with him, and that the rest of narrators are Thuqat (men of
confidence regarding reporting). Ad-Dahabi said: " the level of Abdullah
Ibin Aqeel's narration is not below the rating of "good" (In Meezan Al-
I'tidal: Measure of Balanced (verifications); Arabic). (5)THE HIJAB MUST NOT BE PERFUMED
WITH INCENSE
The Messenger of Allah (SAAW) said:
"إﻳﻤﺎ ا ﻣ ﺮ أ ةٌ ا ﺳ ﺘَ ﻌ ﻄَ ﺮَ ت ، ﻓَﻤﺮﱠت ﻋﻠﻰ ﻗَ ﻮ مٍ ﻟِﻴَﺠِﺪوا رﻳﺤﻬﺎ، ﻓﻬﻲ زاﻧﻴﺔ "
"Any woman who perfumes herself and passes by some people
that they smell her scent, then she is a Zaniyah
(prostitute).(45)
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(45) Related by Imam Ahmed, An-Nissa'ee, and Al-Hakim who said: "it
has
an authentic chain of narration" and Ad-Dahabi agreed.
(6)THE HIJAB SHOULD NOT RESEMBLE
MEN'S
DRESS
The Messenger of Allah (SAAW) said:
"ﻟ ﻴ ﺲَ ﻣِﻨﱠﺎ ﻣﻦ ﺗَ ﺸَ ﺒﱠ ﻪَ ﺑﺎﻟﺮَّﺟﺎلِ ﻦَ اﻟﻨَّﺴﺎءِ، وﻻ ﻣَﻦ ﺗَ ﺸَ ﺒﱠ ﻪَ ﺑ ﺎ ﻟ ﻨَّ ﺴ ﺎ ءِ ﻣﻦ اﻟﺮَّﺟﺎلِ "
"Women who assume the manners of men are not from us and
also those of men who assume the manners of women.(46)
Abu-Huraira (RAA) narrated that:
"ﻟَ ﻌَ ﻦَ رﺳﻮلً اﷲ-ﺻﻠﻰ اﷲ ﻋ ﻠ ﻴ ﻪِ وﺳﻠﱠﻢ-اﻟﺮﺟﻞ ﻳﻠﺒﺲ ﻟﺒﺴﺔ اﻟﻤﺮأة واﻟﻤﺮأة ﺗَ ﻠ ﺒَ ﺲُ ﻟﺒﺴَﺔ
اﻟﺮﺟﻞ ..."
"The prophet (SAAW) cursed the man who wears the dress of
a woman and the woman who wears the dress of a man."(47)
knowingly condones and facilitates the Zina for his wife."(48) __________ــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــ
(46) Reported by Imam Ahmed and Abu Na'eem. Al-Albani authenticated
it in his book "Al-Hijab" (PP 66-67).
(47) Related by Abu Dawoud, Ibin Majah, Al-Hakim, and Imam Ahmed.
Al-Hakim said:" it is an authentic hadeeth in accordance with the
conditions of (Imam) Muslim," and Ad-Dahabi agreed. It was also
authenticated by Imam Al-Nawawee.
(48) Related by An-Nissa'ee, Imam Ahmed, Ibin Khuzayemah, Ibin
Hab'ban and authenticated by the scholar Ahmed Shakir.
(7) THE HIJAB MUST NOT RESEMBLE
THE GARMENTS OF THE KUFFAR
The Messenger of Allah (SAAW) said:
"ﻣﻦ ﺗَﺸَﺒﱠﻪ ﺑِ ﻘَ ﻮ مٍ ﻓَ ﻬُ ﻮَ ﻣِﻨﻬُﻢ "
"The one who takes the similitude (manner) of a certain
people becomes one of them.(49)
Abdullah bin Ummar (RAA) said:
"وﻋﻦ ﻋﺒﺪ اﷲ ﺑﻦ ﻋﻤﺮو- رﺿﻲ اﷲ ﻋﻨﻬﻤﺎ ﻗﺎل: "رأى رﺳﻮل اﷲ- ﺻﻠﻰ اﷲ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ
وﺳﻠﻢ- ﻋَ ﻠ ﻲﱠ ﺛﻮﺑﻴَّﻦِ ﻣُ ﻌَﺼ ﻔَ ﺮَ ﻳْ ﻦ ، ﻓﻘﺎل: "إ نﱠ هﺬﻩ ﻣﻦ ﺛﻴﺎب اﻟﻜُﻔﺎر، ﻓﻼ ﺗﻠﺒﺴﻬﺎ "
"The Prophet (SAAW) saw me wearing two clothes dyed in
saffron, whereupon he said: these are the clothes (usually
worn) by the Kuffar, so do not wear them."(50)
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(49) Related by Abu Dawoud, Ahmed (as part of a another hadeeth), Ibin
Taymeeyah said that the hadeeth has a good chain of narration (i.e. that
reported by Abu Dawoud) and that it is a "good hadeeth"; As-Siyouti
said :"it is "Hassan: Good" and Ibin Hag'er reported it in "Fath Al-Bari"
and supported it with another evidence (a Murssal) with a good chain of
narration.
(50) Saheeh Muslim, V. 3, hadeeth # 5173 (8) THE HIJAB IS NOT FOR FAME!
The Messenger (SAAW) said:
"ﻣﻦ ﻟَ ﺒِ ﺲَ ﺛَﻮبَ ﺷُ ﻬ ﺮ ةٍ ﻓﻲ اﻟﺪﱡﻧﻴﺎ أ ﻟ ﺒَ ﺴَ ﻪُ ا ﷲُ ﺛﻮبَ ﻣَ ﺬَ ﻟﱠ ﺔٍ ﻳَ ﻮ مَ اﻟﻘﻴﺎﻣﺔ، ﺛُ ﻢﱠ أ ﻟ ﻬَ ﺐَ ﻓ ﻴ ﻪِ ﺎراً "
"The one who wears a garment designed for a worldly fame,
Allah will make him wear a garment of humility on the Day of
Resurrection then he will be set ablaze."(51)
The garment of fame is any garment a person wears to make
him/her look famous. This applies whether the garment is
highly precious and shows admiration to the life of this world
or if it is chosen of a low quality to show lack of interest to
this worldly life. The person may put on clothes with distinct
colors so as to draw attention, act proudly and/or arrogantly.
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(51) Related by Abu Dawoud, Ibin Majah, and Al-Munthari said that it is
hassan (good) as well as Ibin Muflih. Imam As-Shawkani said: "The
narrators of the chain are Thuqat" and Al-Alabni reported in his book
"Al-Hijab" p. 110 that it is hassan .
(9) WATCH FOR "CONCEALED" WAYS OF
DISPLAY
Examining the various conditions about the Hijab one can
clearly recognize that many of the young Muslim women are
not fulfilling these conditions. They consider what they put on
now. wrongly as "Hijab"
The enemies of the Islamic revival wanted to destroy it in its
infancy by oppression and cruelty. Allah (SW) defeated their plots and held the believing men and women steadfast in their
obedience of Him (SW). The enemies of Islam realized that
they should deal with the Islamic revival in a wicked way in
order to sway this revival away from its course towards Allah.
They started to spread innovated forms of "Hijab" as a "mid-
way" solution by which the Muslim woman can "please"
Allah (they claim so!) and at the same time "accommodate"
her society and preserve her "beauty" and "glamour".
The modern "boutique" stores were declining in their trade
due to the widespread use of the true Islamic Hijab. Suddenly,
the markets were flooded with altered forms of Tabar'roj
under the name 'modern/contemporary Hijab'. In the
beginning this was protested and women were cautious. A
group of "displaying women" who were embarrassed with the
Islamic Hijab rushed towards the "contemporary Hijab" to
"relief' themselves from the pressing social realities caused
by the spread of Hijab. With time the phenomenon of
"concealed display" became widespread and known as
"contemporary Hijab". Women friendly to this course think
they are the best of girls and best of wives while in fact they
are as one poet said:
If they relate to the HijabIt is the relation of an intruder
So! O women of this kind be mindful to Allah (SW) and His
Messenger (SAAW) and do not be deceived by those who
may "bless" this action of yours and conceal their true
intentions. Do not be deceived and let your response be: " I
am better than those who are in a complete state of
display!" There is no excuse to follow the evil. Know that the
fire of Hell has different lower levels while Paradise has
different higher levels. So it is proper to follow your sisters
who truly adhere to the Islamic Hijab and its conditions. Aim high towards the highest levels of Aj-Jannah. It has been
related that the Prophet (SAAW) said:
"ا ﻧ ﻈُ ﺮُ و ا إﻟﻰ ﻣﻦ هُﻮ أ ﺳ ﻔ ﻞَ ﻣِﻨْﻜُﻢ ﻓﻲ اﻟﺪﱡﻧﻴﺎ، وﻓَﻮْﻗَﻜُﻢ ﻓﻲ اﻟﺪَّﻳﻦ، ﻓ ﺬ ﻟ ﻚَ أﺟﺪر أن
ﺗَﺰدَروا- أي ﺗَﺤﺘَﻘِﺮوا- ﻧﻌﻤﺔَ ا ﷲِ ﻋَﻠَﻴﻜُﻢ "
"Look at those who stand at lower levels than you (regarding
worldly wealth) and those who stand at higher levels than you
in religion (adherence to faith). for this would not make the
favors (conferred upon you by Allah) insignificant (in your
eyes)."(52) Az-Zohri reported(53) that Ummar Ibin Al-Khatab
(RAA) recited the saying of Allah (SW):
وﺗَﻼ ﻋﻤﺮ ﺑﻦ اﻟﺨﻄﺎب- رﺿﻲ اﷲ ﻨﻪ- ﻗﻮﻟﻪ ﻋ ﺰﱠ و ﺟَ ﻞﱠ:
إِ نﱠ ا ﻟﱠ ﺬِ ﻳ ﻦَ ﻗَﺎﻟُﻮا رَﺑﱡﻨَﺎ اﻟﻠﱠﻪُ ﺛُ ﻢﱠ اﺳْﺘَﻘَﺎﻣُﻮا ﺗَ ﺘَ ﻨَ ﺰﱠ لُ ﻋَ ﻠَ ﻴْ ﻬِ ﻢُ
اﻟْﻤَﻠَﺎﺋِﻜَﺔُ أَﻟﱠﺎ ﺗَﺨَﺎﻓُﻮا وَﻟَﺎ ﺗَ ﺤْ ﺰَ ﻧُ ﻮ ا وَ أَ ﺑْ ﺸِ ﺮُ و ا ﺑِ ﺎ ﻟْ ﺠَ ﻨﱠ ﺔِ اﻟﱠﺘِﻲ
آُ ﻨْ ﺘُ ﻢْ ﺗُﻮﻋَﺪُونَ [ﻓُﺼَّﻠَﺖ،٣٠]
"Verily those who say: "Our Lord is
Allah (Alone), and then they stood
straight (i.e. they believed in the
Oneness of Allah and worshipped none
but Him (Alone) and obeyed Him for
all that He ordered them) on them the
angels will descend (at the time of their
death) (saying ); "Fear you not, nor
grieve! But receive the glad tidings of
Aj-Jannah which you have been
Promised!) (Qur'an 41:30).
He then said:
ﻓﻘﺎل :
"اﺳﺘﻘﺎﻣﻮا و ا ﷲِ ﷲِ ﺑﻄﺎﻋَﺘِﻪِ، وﻟَﻢ ﻳُﺮَوﻏﻮا رَ وَ ﻏ ﺎ نَ اﻟﺜﱠﻌﺎﻟِﺐ "
" They, by Allah. followed the straight path of Allah by
obeying Him and did not dodge like wolves."
Al-Hassan Al Basri, may Allah's Mercy be upon him, said: " If
Shaytan (Devil) looks and finds you continuously adhering to
the obedience of Allah he will seek you (i.e. check you) one
time after the other. If he finds that you are still holding, he
becomes weary of you and rejects you. But if you adhere one
time and you do not another, then he becomes covetous:
he wants to have you for himself."(54)
So come on to a straight path that has no crookedness and a
guidance that has no misleading ways in it, and to an honest
repentance that has no disobedience in it:
وَﺗُﻮﺑُﻮا إِﻟَﻰ ﻟ ﻠﱠ ﻪِ ﺟَ ﻤِ ﻴ ﻌً ﺎ أَﻳﱡﻬَﺎ اﻟْﻤُﺆْﻣِﻨُﻮنَ ﻟَ ﻌَ ﻠﱠ ﻜُ ﻢْ
ﺗُ ﻔْ ﻠِ ﺤُ ﻮ نَ اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻟﻨﻮر،٣١]
"And turn you all together to Allah
(and beg Him) to forgive you all, O
believers, that you may be successful."
(Qur'an 24:31)
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(52) The origin of this hadeeth was reported in Saheeh Al-Bukhari in the
Book of Riqaq and Muslim in the Book of Az-Zuhd V.4, hadeeth #
7070, P 1530, and At-Tirmidhi in the Book of Qiyamah.
(53) Reported by Imam Ahmed and Ibin Al-Mubarak. Imam Ahmed
reported it in the Book of Az-Zuhd p. 115 and 110, respectively.
(54) Reported by Ibin Al-Mubarak in his book "Az-Zuhd" p. 7 # 20O! WE HEAR AND WE OBEY
THE HONEST MUSLIM receives the order of Allah (SW)
and hastens to manifest his love to Islam into action and
listens to and obeys the Sunnah of the Prophet (SAAW). He
does not give attention to the lost and misleading ways of the
masses of human beings who do not realize their awaiting
destiny. Allah (SW) negated the existence of belief in those
who turn away from Him and from His Messenger (SAAW)
saying:
ﻳَ ﻘُ ﻮ ﻟُ ﻮ نَ ﺁﻣَﻨﱠﺎ ﺑِﺎﻟﻠﱠﻪِ وَﺑِﺎﻟﺮﱠﺳُﻮلِ وَأَﻃَﻌْﻨَﺎ ﺛُ ﻢﱠ ﻳَﺘَﻮَﻟﱠﻰ
ﻓَ ﺮِ ﻳ ﻖٌ ﻣِ ﻨْ ﻬُ ﻢْ ﻣِ ﻦْ ﺑَ ﻌْ ﺪِ ذَ ﻟِ ﻚَ وَﻣَﺎ أُ و ﻟَ ﺌِ ﻚَ ﺑِﺎﻟْﻤُﺆْﻣِﻨِﻴﻦَ وَإِذَا
دُ ﻋُ ﻮ ا إِﻟَﻰ اﻟﻠﱠﻪِ وَرَ ﺳُ ﻮ ﻟِ ﻪِ ﻟِ ﻴَ ﺤْ ﻜُ ﻢَ ﺑَ ﻴْ ﻨَ ﻬُ ﻢْ إِذَا ﻓَ ﺮِ ﻳ ﻖٌ ﻣِ ﻨْ ﻬُ ﻢْ
ﻣُ ﻌْ ﺮِ ﺿُ ﻮ نَ [اﻟﻨﻮر،٤٨ -٤٧]
"They (hypocrites) say: "We have
believed in Allah and in the Messenger
(Muhammad-SAAW), and we obey",
then a party of them turn away
thereafter, such are not believers. And
when they are called to Allah (i.e. His
Words-the Qur'an) and His Messenger
to judge between them, lo! a party of
them refuse to come and turn away."
(Qur'an 24: 47-48 )
On the other hand:
إِﻧﱠﻤَﺎ آَ ﺎ نَ ﻗَ ﻮْ لَ اﻟْﻤُﺆْﻣِﻨِﻴﻦَ إِذَا دُﻋُﻮ إِﻟَﻰ اﻟﻠﱠﻪِ وَ رَ ﺳُ ﻮ ﻟِ ﻪِ
ﻟِ ﻴَ ﺤْ ﻜُ ﻢَ ﺑَ ﻴْ ﻨَ ﻬُ ﻢْ أَ نْ ﻳَﻘُﻮﻟُﻮا ﺳَﻤِﻌْﻨَﺎ وَأَﻃَﻌْﻨَﺎ [اﻟﻨﻮر،٥١]
"The saying of the faithful believers
when they are called to Allah (His
Words-the Qur'an) and His Messenger (SAAW) to judge between them is only
that they say: 'We hear and we obey.'
And such are the successful (who will
live for ever in Aj-Jannah)." (Qur'an 24: 51-52)
Safyeeyah, the daughter of Shayebah, said:
ﻋﻦ ﺻﻔﻴﺔ ﺑﻨﺖ ﺷﻴﺒﺔ ﻗﺎﻟﺖ :
ﺑﻴﻨﻤﺎ ﻧَ ﺤْ ﻦُ ﻋِ ﻨ ﺪَ ﻋﺎﺋِﺸﺔ رﺿﻲ اﷲ ﻋﻨﻬﺎ ﻗﺎﻟﺖ: ﻓّ ﺬ آَ ﺮ تْ ﻧِ ﺴ ﺎ ءَ ﻗُﺮﻳﺶ وﻓَﻀﻠِﻬِﻦﱠ،
ﻓﻘﺎﻟﺖ ﻋﺎﺋﺸﺔ رﺿﻲ اﷲ ﻋﻨﻬﺎ: "إ نﱠ ﻟِ ﻨ ﺴ ﺎ ءِ ﻗُﺮﻳﺶ ﻟَﻔﻀﻼً، وإﻧَّﻲ واﷲ ﻣﺎ ر أ ﻳ ﺖُ
أﻓﻀﻞ ﻣﻦ ﻧﺴﺎء اﻷﻧﺼﺎر أ ﺷ ﺪﱠ ﺗﺼﺪﻳﻘﺎً ﻟِ ﻜ ﺘ ﺎ بِ اﷲِ، وﻻ إ ﻳ ﻤ ﺎ ﻧ ﺎً ﺑﺎﻟﺘﻨﺰﻳﻞ، ﻟﻘﺪ أﻧﺰِﻟَﺖ
ﺳﻮرة اﻟﻨﻮر: وﻟِﻴَﻀْﺮِﺑﻦَ ﺑِ ﺨُ ﻤ ﺮِ هِ ﻦﱠ... اﻵﻳﺔ، ﻓﺎﻧﻘﻠﺐ ر ﺟ ﺎ ﻟُ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ إ ﻟ ﻴ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ ﻳ ﺘ ﻠ ﻮ نَ ﻋ ﻠ ﻴ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ
ﻣﺎ أُﻧﺰل اﷲ إﻟﻴﻬِﻢ ﻓﻴﻬﺎ، وﻳﺘﻠﻮ اﻟﺮﺟﻞ ﻋﻠﻰ إﻣﺮأﺗﻪ، واﺑﻨﺘﻪ، واﺧﺘﻪ، وﻋﻠﻰ آﻞ ذي
ﻗﺮاﺑﺘﻪ، ﻓﻤﺎ ﻣ ﻨ ﻬُ ﻦﱠ إﻣﺮأة إ ﻻﱠ ﻗﺎﻣﺖ إﻟﻰ ﻣِ ﺮْ ﻃِ ﻬ ﺎ ا ﻟ ﻤُ ﺮَ ﺣﱠ ﻞِ ﻓﺎﻋﺘَﺠَﺮَت ﺑﻪ- ﺗﺼﺪﻳﻘﺎ وإﻳ ﻤ ﺎ ﻧ ﺎً ﺑﻤﺎ
أﻧﺰل اﷲ ﻣﻦ آﺘﺎﺑﻪ، ﻓ ﺄ ﺻ ﺒَ ﺤْ ﻦَ وراء رﺳﻮل اﷲ- ﺻﻠﻰ اﷲ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ وﺳﻠﻢ- ﻣﻌﺘﺠﺮات
آ ﺄ نﱠ ﻋﻠﻰ رُ ؤ و ﺳِ ﻬِ ﻦﱠ اﻟﻐُﺮﺑﺎن."
"While we were at A'isha's (RAA) we mentioned the women of
Qureish and their good favors, then A'isha said: "indeed the
women of Qureish have a good favor and by Allah I have not
seen better than the women of Al-Ansar in their strength of
acceptance of the Book of Allah and in the belief in the
Revelation: At the time when Surat An-Nur was sent down
وﻟِﻴَﻀْﺮِﺑﻦَ ﺑِ ﺨُ ﻤ ﺮِ هِ ﻦﱠ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺟُﻴﻮﺑِﻬِﻦﱠ ﻳﺔ :(and in it Allah says)
"Let them (believing women) draw their veils over Juyubihinna."
soon their husbands turned to them reciting what Allah had
sent down to them (i.e. the above Ayah), the man recites to his
wife, his daughter, his sister and to every female relative. Not
a single woman of them except that she took up her engraved
Mirt(55) (wrapper) and covered her head and face in
acceptance and belief in what Allah had sent down from His
Book. The next morning they were behind the Prophet
(SAAW), covered as if black crows were on top of their heads.(56)
Therefore, there is no choice but to submit the order of Allah and no hesitation should exist in following the ruling of Allah.
So come for repentance, O My Muslim Sister, and watch for
words like "I will repent, I will pray, I will cover with Hijab",
because delaying the repentance is a sin that you must repent
from! Say as Allah (SW) said on the tongue of Mussa (May
All's peace be upon him) :
و ﻋَ ﺠِ ﻠ ﺖُ إ ﻟ ﻴ ﻚَ ر بَّ ﻟِﺘَﺮﺿﻰ اﻵﻳﺔ [ﻃﻪ، ٨٤]
"I HASTENED TO YOU, O MY LORD,
TO PLEASE YOU"
(Qur'an 20:84)
And say as the believing men and women said:
ﺳَﻤِﻌﻨﺎ وأﻃَﻌﻨﺎ ﻏُﻔﺮاﻧﻚ رﺑﱠﻨﺎ و إ ﻟ ﻴ ﻚَ اﻟﻤَﺼﻴﺮ اﻵﻳﺔ [اﻟﺒﻘﺮة،٢٥٨]
"WE HEAR AND WE OBEY. (WE SEEK) YOUR
FORGIVENESS, OUR LORD, AND TO YOU IS THE
RETURN" (Qur'an 2: 285)
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(55) With pictures of houses and dwellings.
(56) Reported in The Tafseer of Al-Qur'an Al-Ath'eem by Ibin Katheer
5:90 (Arabic)
A VIEW THROUGH HIJAB
By Sister Khaula(57) From Japan
10/25/1993
My Story To Islam
As most of the Japanese, I'd followed no religion before I
embraced Islam in France. I was majoring in French Literature
at the university. My favorite thinkers were Sartre, Nietchze
and Camas, whose thinking is atheistic. At the same time,
however, I was very interested in religion, not because of my
inner necessity but of my love for the truth. What was waiting
for me after death did not interest me at all; how to live was
my concern(58). For a long time I had a sort of impression that I
was not doing what I should do and I was wasting my time.
Whether God existed or not was the same to me; I just wanted
to know the truth and choose my way of life-to live with God
or without God.
I started to read books on different religions except Islam. I
had never thought that Islam was a religion worth studying. It
was for me, at that time, a sort of primitive idolatry of the
simple mind (how ignorant I was!). I made friends with
Christians, with whom I studied the Bible, to come to realize a
few years later the existence of God. But then I had to face a
dilemma because I could not "feel" God at all, in spite of my
conviction that he should exist. I tried to pray in church, but in
vain. I felt nothing but the absence of God.
I then studied Buddhism, hoping I would be able to feel God
through Zen or Yoga. I found as many things in Buddhism
that seemed to be true as I had in Christianity, yet there were
many things I could not understand or accept. In my opinion, If God exists, He should be for everyone(59) and the truth
should simple and clear to everyone. I could not understand
why people should abandon ordinary life to devote themselves
to God.
I was really at a loss for what to do to reach the end of my
desperate quest for God. It was then that I met an Algerian
Muslim. Born and raised in France, he didn't even know how
to pray and his life was quite far from the ideal of a Muslim;
nevertheless, he had very strong faith in God. However, his
belief without knowledge irritated me and made me decide to
study Islam. To start with, I bought a French translation of the
Qur'an, but I could not read more than two pages. It seemed so
strange and boring. I gave up my effort to understand it alone
and went to the mosque in Paris to ask someone to help me. It
was a Sunday and there was a lecture for women. The sisters
welcomed me warmly. It was my first encounter with
practicing Muslim women. To my surprise, I felt myself very
much at ease with them, although I'd always felt myself a
stranger in the company of Christians. I started to attend the
lecture every weekend and to read a book given to me by one
of the Muslim women. Every minute of the lecture and every
page of the book were, for me, a revelation, giving me great
spiritual satisfaction I've never known before. I had an excited
feeling that I was being initiated into the truth. What was
wonderful, Subhaanallah (Praise be to Allaah), was my
feeling the presence of God very close to me while in the
posture of Sajdah (prostration).
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(57) Sister Khaula visited the Women's Office of The Islamic Guidance
Center in Buraidah, Al-Qassim, Saudi Arabia on 10/25/1993. She shared
this information with other Muslim Sisters in the Office. 1 found it
important to share with our Muslim brothers and sisters the Story of Khaula's coming to Islam followed by her experience and advice
concerning the Hijab.
(58) This is the concern of so many people in the World and especially in
the West or in countries dominated by Western culture. People become
"workaholic" to keep up with more and more of what they want to have.
The secondary things of today are the necessities of tomorrow! The
Medium way described by the Creator, Allah, is ignored except by the
few.(Dr.S. As-Saleh)
(59) Allah is the God of everyone. This thought translates that God must
be one. There is no nationalistic belonging to God! Being the God of
everyone, He does not command some people to worship Him alone
while at the same time makes it permissible for others to set up rivals
with Him in worship. This means that His worship must be one and that
it is not up to us to define this type of worship. The way of worship
belongs to the One and Only One True God, Allah. This constitutes His
religion and He had named this way: Islam. Khula's Story with the Hijab
"Two years ago when I embraced Islam in France, the polemic
around the wearing of the hijab at school was very hot. The
majority of people thought it was against the principle of the
public school which should keep its neutrality towards the
religion. I, who was not yet Muslim then, could hardly
understand why they were worried over such a tiny thing as a
small scarf put on the head of Muslim students...but,
apparently, French people who had faced the serious problem
of the increasing non-employment rate and the insecurity in
big cities became nervous over the immigration of workers
from Arab countries. They felt aggrieved by the sight of the
hijab in their town and in their school.
In Arab countries, on the other hand, a great wave of coming
back of the hijab was being observed especially among the
young generation, against the expectation, shared by some
Arab people and the most of Western people, of its passing
away from the scene as Westenerization took root.
The Islamic revival symbolized by the current resurgence of
the hijab is often considered as an attempt of Arab Muslims to
restore their pride and identity which have been repeatedly
undermined by colonization and economic retardation. For
Japanese people, the actual adherence of Arab people to Islam
may seem a kind of conservative traditionalism or anti-
westernism, which (the) Japanese knew themselves in the
Meiji era at the first contact with the Western culture, and
because of which they reacted against the Western life-style
and the Western way of dressing. Man has always had a
conservative tendency and reacts against which is new and
unfamiliar without realizing whether it is good or bad for him.
Some people still think the Muslim women insist on wearing
hijab which is the "very symbol of the oppressed situation because they are enslaved by the tradition and are not
sufficiently aware of their lamentable situation. If only, they
probably think, the movement of the women's liberation and
independence awakes those women's mind, they will take
away the hijab."
Such a naive point of view is shared by the people who have
little knowledge of Islam. They, who are so accustomed to the
secularism and the religious eclecticism, are simply unable to
understand that the teaching of Islam is universal and eternal.
Anyway, there are more and more women, beyond the Arab
Nationality, all over the world embracing Islam as the true
religion and covering the hair. I am but an example of these women.
The hijab is surely a strange object for non-Muslim people.
For them, the Hijab does not cover the woman's hair but also
hides something to which they have no access, and it's why
they feel uneasy. From the outside, effectively, they can never
see what is behind the Hijab. I have kept the hijab since I
became Muslim in Paris two years ago...In France, soon after
my conversion, I put a scarf, matched in color to the dress,
lightly on the head, which people might think a sort of
fashion(60). Now in Saudi Arabia, I cover in black all my body
from the top of my head till the tip of my toes including my
eyes...At the time I decided to embrace Islam, I did not think
seriously about whether I would be able to make the five
prayers a day or put the hijab. May be I was afraid that I might
find the negative answer, and that would affect my decisions
to be Muslim. I had lived in a world which had nothing to do
with Islam until I visited, for the first time, the Mosque of
Paris. Neither the prayer nor the hijab were yet very familiar
to me. I could hardly imagine myself making the prayer and
wearing the hijab. But my desire to be a Muslim was too
strong to worry about what was waiting for me after my
conversion. Indeed, it was a miracle that I embraced Islam,
Allah Akbar. In hijab I felt myself different. I felt myself purified and
protected. I felt the company of Allah. As a foreigner, I felt
sometimes uneasy in a public place, stared by men. With
hijab, I was not seen. I found that the hijab sheltered me from
such impolite stares. I was also very happy and proud in hijab
which is not only the sign of my obedience to Allah but also
the manifestation of my faith...besides, the hijab helps us to
recognize each other and to share the feeling of sisterhoods.
The hijab has also the advantage of reminding the people
around me that God exists and reminding me of being with
God(61). It tells me: "be careful. You should conduct yourself as
a Muslim" As a policeman becomes more conscious of his
profession in his uniform, I had a stronger feeling of being
Muslim with hijab.
Soon, I started to put the hijab before my going out from the
house whenever I went to the Mosque. It was a spontaneous
and voluntary act and no body forced me to do so.
Two weeks after my conversion, I went back to Japan to
attend the wedding ceremony of one of my sisters, and
decided not to go back to France, Now that I became a
Muslim and found that I'd been looking for, the French
literature did not interest me any more. I had rather an
increasing passion for learning the Arabic(62).
For me...it was a trial to live in a small town in Japan, isolated
completely from Muslims, But such isolation helped me to
intensify my consciousness of being a Muslim. As Islam
prohibits the women to disclose the body and to wear clothes
which accentuate the body line, I had to abandon many of my
clothes such as mini-skirts and half-sleeve blouses. Besides,
the Western style fashion does not match with the hijab. I
decided, therefore, to make a dress by myself. I asked a friend of mine who knew dress-making to help me, and in two weeks
I made a dress with a "pantaloon" after the model of a
"Pakistani dress". I did not mind people looking at my strange
"fashion".
Six months had past since I went back to Japan, when my
desire to study the Arabic and Islam in a Muslim country grew
so intense that I decided to realize it. I went to Cairo where I
knew only one person.
I was at a loss to find none of my host family spoke English.
To my great surprise, furthermore, the lady who took my hand
to lead me into the house covered herself all in black from top
to toe including the face. Such a "fashion" is now familiar to
me and I adopt it for myself in Riyadh, but at that time, I was
quite surprised at the sight.
I attended once in France a big conference for Muslims, and in
that occasion I saw for the first time a woman in black dress
with a face-cover. Her presence among the women in colorful
dress and scarf was very strange and I said myself: " there she
is, a woman enslaved by the Arabic tradition without knowing
the real teaching of Islam", because I knew few things of Islam
at that time and thought the covering of the face was but an
ethnical tradition not founded in Islam.
The thought which came to me at the sight of a face-covered
woman in Cairo was not very far from that. She's
exaggerating. Its un-natura1...Her attempts to try to avoid any
contact with men seemed also abnormal.
The sister in black dress told me that my self-made dress was
not suitable to go out with. I was not content with her because
I thought my dress satisfied the conditions of a Muslima's
dress...I bought a black cloth and made a long dress and a long veil called "Khimar" which covers the loins and the whole of
the arms. I was even ready to cover the face because it seemed
good "to avoid the dust", but the sister said there was no need.
I should not put the cover-face for such a reason while these
sisters put it because they believed it a religious duty.
Although most of sisters whom I got acquainted with covered
the face, they constituted but a small minority in the whole
city of Cairo, and some people apparently got shocked and
embarrassed at the sight of black Khimar. Indeed the ordinary
more or less westernized young Egyptians tried to keep a
distance from those women in Khimar, calling them "the
sisters". The men also treated them with a certain respect and
a special politeness on the street or in a bus. Those women
shared a sisterhood and exchanged the salaam (the Islamic
greeting) on the street even without knowing each other…
Before my conversion I preferred an active pants-style to a
feminine skirt, but the long dress I started to wear in Cairo got
to please me very soon. It makes me feel very elegant as if I
had become a princess. I feel more relaxed in long dress than
in a pantaloon …
My sisters were really beautiful and bright in their Khimar,
and a kind of saintliness appeared on their faces...Every
Muslim devotes his life to God. I wonder why people who say
nothing about the "veil" of the "Catholic Sisters" criticize the
veil of the Muslima, considering it as a symbol of "terrorism"
or "oppression".
I gave a negative answer when the Egyptian sister told me to
wear like this even after my return to Japan….If I show myself
in such a long black dress on the street in Japan, people might
think me crazy(63). Shocked by my dress, they would not like to
listen to me, whatever I say. they would reject Islam because of my appearance, without trying to know its teaching(64). Thus
I argued with her.
Sixth months later, however, I got accustomed to my long
dress and started to think I may wear it even in Japan. So, just
before my return to Japan, I made some dresses with light
colors and white Khimars, thinking they would be less
shocking than the black one.
The reaction of the Japanese to my white Khimar was rather
good and I met no rejection or mockery at all. They seemed to
be able to guess my belonging to a religion without knowing
which it is. I heard a young girl behind me whispering to her
friend that I was a "Buddhist nun"...
Once on a train I sat beside an elderly man who asked me why
I was in such a "strange fashion". I explained him that I was a
Muslim and in Islam women are commanded to cover the
body and their charm so as not to trouble men who are weak
to resist this kind of temptation. He seemed very impressed by
my explanation, may be because he did not welcome today's
young girls' provocative fashion. He left the train thanking me
and saying he would have liked to have more time to talk with
me on Islam.
My father was sorry that I went out even on the hottest day in
summer with a long sleeve and a head-cover, but I found the
hijab convenient for avoiding the direct sunlight on the head
and the neck... I felt rather uneasy in looking at the white
thigh of my younger sister who wore short pants. I've often
been embarrassed even before my conversion by the sight of a
woman's busts and hips traced by the shape of her tight thin
clothes. I felt as if I had seen something not to be seen. If such
a sight embraces me who is of the same sex, it is not difficult
to imagine what effect it would give to men. Why hide the body in its natural state?, you may ask. But
think it was considered vulgar fifty years ago in Japan to swim
in a swimming suit. Now we swim in a bikini without shame.
If you swim, however, with a topless, people would say you
are shameless, but go to a South-France's beach, where many
women, young and old, take a sun-bath in a topless. If you go
to a certain beach on the west coast in America, the nudists
take a sun-bath as naked as when they are born. On the other
side, at the medieval times, a knight trembled at a brief sight
of a shoe of his adoring lady. It shows the definition of
women's "secret part" can be changed. How you can answer to
a nudist if she asks you why you hide yours busts and hips
although they are as natural as your hands and face? It is the
same for the hijab of a Muslima. We consider all our body
except hands and face as private parts because Allah defined it
like this(65). Its why we hide them from male strangers. If you
keep something secret, it increases in value. Keeping woman's
body secret increases its charm. Even for the eye of the same
sex, the nape of a sister's neck is surprisingly beautiful
because it is normally covered. If a man loses the feeling of
shame and starts to walk naked and excrete and "make love"
in the presence of other people, he would then become no
different than an animal. I think the culture of men started
when men knew the sense of shame.
Some Japanese wives (put their) make up only when they go
out, never minding at home how they look. But in Islam a wife
tries to be beautiful especially for her husband and a husband
also tries to have a nice look to please his wife. They have
shame even between themselves and towards each other. You
may say why we are "over-sensitive" to hide the body except
the face and the hands so as not to excite men's desire, as if a
man looks always at a woman with a sexual appetite.But the problem of sexual harassment so much talked about
recently shows how men are weak to resist to this kind of
attraction. We could not expect prevention of sex harassment
only by appealing men's high morality and self-control...As a
short skirt might be interpreted by men to say: " if you want
me, you may take me", a hijab means clearly, "I am forbidden
for you. "
Three months after coming back from Cairo, I left Japan to
Saudi Arabia, and this time with my husband. I had prepared a
small black cloth to cover the face with...Arriving at Riyadh, I
found out that not all the women covered the face. The non-
Muslim foreigners of course put only a black gown
nonchalantly without covering the head, but the Muslim
foreigners also uncovered the face(66). As for the Saudi women,
all of them seemed to cover perfectly from top to toe.
On my first going out, I put the niqab and found out (that) it
(was) quite nice. Once accustomed to it, there is no
inconvenience. Rather, I felt quite fine as if I became a noble
and special person. I felt like the owner of a stolen
masterpiece who enjoyed the secret pleasure: I have a treasure
that you don't know and which you are not allowed to see. A
foreigner might see a couple of a fat man and a woman all
covered in black who follows him in the street in Riyadh as a
caricature of the oppressing-oppressed relationship or the
possessing-possessed relationship, but the fact is that the
women feel as if they were queens guarded and lead by
servants.
During the first several months in Riyadh, I covered only the
part beneath the eyes. But when I made a winter cloth, I made
on the same occasion a thin eye-cover. My armament then
became perfect and my comfort also. Even in a crowd of men,
I felt no more uneasiness. I felt as if I had become transparent before the eyes of men. When I displayed the eyes, I felt
sometines uneasy when my eyes met a man's eye accidentally,
especially because the Arab people have very keen eyes. The
eye-cover prevents, like black sun-glasses, the visual intrusion
of strangers.
Khaula further says that the Muslim woman "covers herself
for her own dignity. She refuses to be possessed by the eyes of
a stranger and to be his object. She feels pity for western
women who display their private parts as objects f or male
strangers. If one observes the hijab from outside, one will
never see what is hidden in it. Observing the hijab from the
outside and living it from inside are two completely different
things. We see different things. This gap explains the gap of
understanding Islam. From the outside, Islam looks like a
'prison' without any liberty. But living inside of it, we feel at
peace and freedom and joy that we've never known
before...We chose Islam against the so-called freedom and
pleasure. If it is true that Islam is a religion that oppresses the
women, why are there so many young women in Europe, in
America, and in Japan who abandon their liberty and
independence to embrace Islam? I want people to reflect on it.
A person blinded because of his prejudice may not see it, but
a woman with the hijab is so brightly beautiful as an angel or
a saint with self-confidence, calmness, and dignity. Not a
slight touch of shade nor trace of oppression is on her face.
'They are blind and cannot see', says the Qur'an about those
who deny the sign of Allah, but by what else can we explain
this gap on the understanding of Islam between us and those
people." (3/1993)
Note: Khula's article was sent (late 1993) to the Women's
Office of the Islamic Guidance Center, Buraidah, Al-
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(60) She is giving a reflection of her early degree of religious awareness
and consciousness.
(61) i.e. God conscious.
(62) It is strongly urged that all non-Arabic speaking Muslims to learn
Arabic. It helps them to know better about Islam.
(63) Many women feel this kind of feeling. These are temptations of the
Shyatan trying to sway the Muslima from obedience to Allah.
(64) Shaytan wants the Muslim to feel "inferior". The believer, however,
remembers that Islam is from Allah and the person he is dealing with is
only a created being, who will die and will return to answer for his
rejection of Allah's religion. The hijab for women and the beard for men
are to be respected, first, by the Muslim in order to feel strong about
their appearence. This can be achieved by remembering that these
outwardly appearances are the command of Allah and His Messenger.
(65) This matter had been discussed in the text. Khaula further says in her
article that: "No need to say that the woman's face is one of the biggest
charm points. It is possible that a man "falls in love" with a woman at a
glance of her face. It is better for a woman to hide the face"
(66) Not all. In fact in Saudi Arabia, many Muslimat from many countries
cover their faces.
5. In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER HUSBAND
Marriage in Islam
In Islam, marriage is a blessed contract between a man and a woman, in which each
becomes “permitted” to the other, and they begin the long journey of life in a spirit of love, cooperation, harmony and tolerance, where each feels at ease with the other, and finds
tranquility, contentment and comfort in the company of the other. The Qur’aan has described
this relationship between men and women, which brings love, harmony, trust and
compassion, in the most moving and eloquent terms:
(And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves,
that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between
your [hearts] . . . (Qur’aan 30:21)
This is the strongest of bonds, in which Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) unites the two
Muslim partners, who come together on the basis of love, understanding, co-operation and
mutual advice, and establish a Muslim family in which children will live and grow up, and they
will develop the good character and behavior taught by Islam. The Muslim family is the
strongest component of a Muslim society when its members are productive and constructive,
helping and encouraging one another to be good and righteous, and competing with one
another in good works.
The righteous woman is the pillar, cornerstone and foundation of the Muslim family. She is
seen as the greatest joy in a man’s life, as the Prophet said:
“This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this world is a righteous
woman.”
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A righteous woman is the greatest blessing that Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) can give to a
man, for with her he can find comfort and rest after the exhausting struggle of earning a living.
With his wife, he can find incomparable tranquility and pleasure.
How can a woman be the best comfort in this world? How can she be a successful woman,
true to her own femininity, and honored and loved? This is what will be explained in the
following pages:
She chooses a good husband
One of the ways in which Islam has honored woman is by giving her the right to choose her
husband. Her parents have no right to force her to marry someone she dislikes. The Muslim
woman knows this right, but she does not reject the advice and guidance of her parents when
a potential suitor comes along, because they have her best interests at heart, and they have
more experience of life and people. At the same time, she does not forego this right because
of her father’s wishes that may make him force his daughter into a marriage with someone
she dislikes.
There are many texts that support the woman in this sensitive issue, for example the report
quoted by Imam Al-Bukhaari from al-Khansa’ bint Khidam: 2
“My father married me to his nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the
Messenger of Allah . He said to me: ‘Accept what your father has arranged.’ I said, ‘I do
not wish to accept what my father has arranged.’ He said, ‘Then this marriage is invalid, go
and marry whomever you wish.’ I said, ‘I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I
wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e. they have
no right to force a marriage on them).’”
2
At first, the Prophet told al-Khansa’ to obey her father, and this is as it should be, because
the concern of fathers for their daughters’ well being is well known. But when he realized that
her father wanted to force her into a marriage she did not want, he gave her the freedom to
choose, and saved her from the oppression of a father who wanted to force her into an
unwanted marriage.
Islam does not want to impose an unbearable burden on women by forcing them to marry a
man they dislike, because it wants marriages to be successful, based on compatibility
between the partners; there should be common ground between them in terms of physical
looks, attitudes, habits, inclinations and aspirations. If something goes wrong, and the woman
feels that she cannot love her husband sincerely, and fears that she may commit the sin of
disobeying and opposing this husband whom she does not love, then she may ask for a
divorce. This is confirmed by the report in which the wife of Thabit ibn Qays ibn Shammas,
Jamilah the sister of ‘Abdullah ibn Ubayy, came to the Prophet and said: “O Messenger of
Allah, I have nothing against Thabit ibn Qays as regards his religion or his behavior, but I hate
to commit any act of kufr when I am a Muslim. The Prophet said: “Will you give his garden
back to him?” - her mahr had been a garden. She said, “Yes.” So the Messenger of Allah sent
word to him: “Take back your garden, and give her one pronouncement of divorce.”
3
According to a report given by Al-Bukhaari from Ibn ‘Abbas, she said, “I do not blame Thabit
for anything with regard to his religion or his behavior, but I do not like him.”
Islam has protected woman’s pride and humanity, and has respected her wishes with regard
to the choice of a husband with whom she will spend the rest of her life. It is not acceptable
for anyone, no matter who he is, to force a woman into a marriage with a man she does not
like.
There is no clearer indication of this than the story of Barirah, an Ethiopian slave-girl who
belonged to ‘Utbah ibn Abu Lahab, who forced her to marry another slave whose name was
Mughith. She would never have accepted him as a husband if she had been in control of her
own affairs. ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) took pity on her, so she bought her and
set her free. Then this young woman felt that she was free and in control of her own affairs,
and that she could take a decision about her marriage. She asked her husband for a divorce.
Her husband used to follow her, weeping, whilst she rejected him. Al-Bukhaari quotes Ibn
‘Abbas describing this freed woman who insisted on the annulment of her marriage to
someone she did not love; the big-hearted Prophet commented on this moving sight, and
sought to intervene. Ibn ‘Abbas said:
“Barirah’s husband was a slave, who was known as Mughith. I can almost see him,
running after her and crying, with tears running down onto his beard. The Prophet said
to ‘Abbas, ‘O ‘Abbas, do you not find it strange, how much Mugith loves Barirah, and how
much Barirah hates Mughith?’ The Prophet said (to Barirah), ‘Why do you not go back
to him?’ She said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, are you commanding me to do so?’ He said, ‘I
am merely trying to intervene on his behalf.’ She said, ‘I have no need of him.’”
4
The Prophet was deeply moved by this display of human emotion: deep and
overwhelming love on the part of the husband, and equally powerful hatred on the part of the
wife. He could not help but remind the wife, and ask her why she did not go back to him, as
he was her husband and the father of her child. This believing woman asked him, whether he
was ordering her to do so: was this a command, a binding obligation? The Prophet , this
great law-giver and educator, replied that he was merely trying to intercede and bring about
reconciliation if possible; he was not trying to force anybody to do something they did not wish 3
to. Let those stubborn, hard-hearted fathers who oppress their own daughters listen to the
teaching of the Prophet !
The Muslim woman who understands the teachings of her religion has wise and correct
standards when it comes to choosing a husband. She does not concern herself just with good
looks, high status, a luxurious lifestyle or any of the other things that usually attract women.
She looks into his level of religious commitment and his attitude and behavior, because these
are the pillars of a successful marriage, and the best features of a husband. Islamic teaching
indicates the importance of these qualities in a potential husband, as Islam obliges a woman
to accept the proposal of anyone who has these qualities, lest fitnah and corruption become
widespread in society:
“If there comes to you one with whose religion and attitude you are satisfied, then give your
daughter to him in marriage, for if you do not do so, fitnah and mischief will become
widespread on earth.”
5
Just as the true Muslim young man will not be attracted to the pretty girls who have grown up
in a bad environment, so the Muslim young woman who is guided by her religion will not be
attracted to stupid “play-boy” types, no matter how handsome they may be. Rather she will be
attracted to the serious, educated, believing man who is clean-living and pure of heart, whose
behavior is good and whose understanding of religion is sound. No one is a suitable partner
for the good, believing woman except a good, believing man; and no one is a suitable partner
for the wayward, immoral woman but a wayward, immoral man, as Allah (subhaanahu wa
‘ta’aalaa) has said:
Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure, and women of
purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity . . . (Qur’aan
24:26)
This does not mean that the Muslim woman should completely ignore the matter of physical
appearance, and put up with unattractiveness or ugliness. It is her right - as stated above - to
marry a man for whom her heart may be filled with love, and who is pleasing to her both in his
appearance and in his conduct. Appearance should not be neglected at the expense of inner
nature, or vice versa. A woman should choose a man who is attractive to her in all aspects,
one who will gain her admiration and respect. The true Muslim woman is never dazzled by
outward appearances, and she never lets them distract her from seeing the essence of a
potential spouse.
The Muslim woman knows that the man has the right of qiwaamah over her, as the Qur’aan
says:
(Men are the protectors and maintainers [qawwaamun] of women, because Allah has
given the one more [strength] than the other, and because they support them from
their means . . .) (Qur’aan 4:34)
Hence she wants to marry a man of whose qiwaamah over her she will feel proud, one whom
she will be happy to marry and never regret it. She wants a man who will take her hand in his
and set out to fulfill their life’s mission of establishing a Muslim family and raising a new
generation of intelligent and caring children, in an atmosphere of love and harmony, which will
not be impeded by conflicting attitudes or religious differences. Believing men and believing
women are supposed to walk side-by-side on the journey of life, which is a serious matter for
the believer, so that they may fulfill the great mission with which Allah (subhaanahu wa
‘ta’aalaa) has entrusted mankind, men and women alike, as the Qur’aan says:
(For Muslim men and women - for believing men and women, for devout men and
women, for true men and women, for men and women who are constant and patient,
for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity,
for men and women who fast [and deny themselves], for men and women who guard
their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah’s praise - for them
has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward.) (Qur’aan 33:35) 4
In order to achieve this great goal of strengthening the marriage bond, and establishing a
stable family life, it is essential to choose the right partner in the first place.
Among the great Muslim women who are known for their strength of character, lofty
aspirations and far-sightedness in their choice of a husband is Umm Sulaym bint Milhan, who
was one of the first Ansaar women to embrace Islam. She was married to Malik ibn Nadar,
and bore him a son, Anas. When she embraced Islam, her husband Malik was angry with her,
and left her, but she persisted in her Islam. Shortly afterwards, she heard the news of his
death, and she was still in the flower of her youth. She bore it all with the hope of reward, for
the sake of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), and devoted herself to taking care of her tenyear-old son Anas. She took him to the Prophet , so that he could serve him (and learn
from him).
One of the best young men of Madinah, one of the best looking, richest and strongest, came
to seek her hand in marriage. This was Abu Talhah - before he became Muslim. Many of the
young women of Yathrib liked him because of his wealth, strength and youthful good looks,
and he thought that Umm Sulaym would joyfully rush to accept his offer. But to his
astonishment, she told him, “O Abu Talhah, do you not know that your god whom you worship
is just a tree that grew in the ground and was carved into shape by the slave of Banu so-andso.” He said, “Of course.” She said, “Do you not feel ashamed to prostrate yourself to a piece
of wood that grew in the ground and was carved by the slave of Banu so-and-so?” Abu
Talhah was stubborn, and hinted to her of an expensive dowry and luxurious lifestyle, but she
persisted in her point of view, and told him frankly: “O Abu Talhah, a man like you could not
be turned away, but you are a disbelieving man, and I am a Muslim woman. It is not permitted
for me to marry you, but if you were to embrace Islam, that would be my dowry (mahr), and I
would ask you for nothing more.”
6
He returned the following day to try to tempt her with a larger dowry and more generous gift,
but she stood firm, and her persistence and maturity only enhanced her beauty in his eyes.
She said to him, “O Abu Talhah, do you not know that your god whom you worship was
carved by the carpenter slave of so-and-so? If you were to set it alight, it would burn.” Her
words came as a shock to Abu Talhah, and he asked himself, "Does the Lord burn?" Then he
uttered the words: “Ashhadu an laa ilaaha ill-Allah wa ashhadu anna Muhammadan rasulAllah.”
Then Umm Sulaym said to her son Anas, with joy flooding her entire being, “O Anas, marry
me to Abu Talhah.” So Anas brought witnesses and the marriage was solemnized.
Abu Talhah was so happy that he was determined to put all his wealth at Umm Sulaym’s
disposal, but hers was the attitude of the selfless, proud, sincere believing woman. She told
him, “O Abu Talhah, I married you for the sake of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), and I will
not take any other dowry.” She knew that when Abu Talhah embraced Islam, she did not only
win herself a worthy husband, but she also earned a reward from Allah (subhaanahu wa
‘ta’aalaa) that was better than owning red camels (the most highly-prized kind) in this world,
as she had heard the Prophet say:
“If Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) were to guide one person to Islam through you, it is better
for you than owning red camels.”
7
Such great Muslim women are examples worthy of emulation, from whom Muslim women
may learn purity of faith, strength of character, soundness of belief and wisdom in choosing a
husband.
She is obedient to her husband and shows him respect
The true Muslim woman is always obedient to her husband, provided that no sin is involved.
She is respectful towards him and is always eager to please him and make him happy. If he is
poor, she does not complain about his being unable to spend much. She does not complain
about her housework, because she remembers that many of the virtuous women in Islamic
history set an example of patience, goodness and a positive attitude in serving their husbands
and taking care of their homes despite the poverty and hardships they faced. One of the
foremost of these exemplary wives is Fatimah al-Zahra’, the daughter of Muhammad and 5
the wife of ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib (RAA). She used to complain of the pain in her hands caused by
grinding grain with the hand-mill. Her husband ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib said to her one day, “Your
father has brought some female slaves, so go and ask him for one of them to come and serve
you.” She went to her father, but she felt too shy to ask him for what she wanted. ‘Ali went
and asked him to provide a servant for his beloved daughter, but the Prophet could not
respond to those who most dear to him whilst ignoring the needs of the poor among the
Muslims, so he came to his daughter and her husband and said: “Shall I not teach you
something that is better than that for which you asked me? When you go to bed at night, say
‘Subhaan Allah’ thirty-three times, ‘Al-hamdu lillaah’ thirty-three times, and ‘Allahu akbar’
thirty-four times. This is better for you than a servant.”
Then he bid them farewell and left, after giving them this divine help which would make them
forget their tiredness and help them to overcome their exhaustion.
‘Ali (RAA) began to repeat the words that the Prophet had taught him. He said, “I never
stopped doing that after he had taught me these words.” One of his companions asked him,
“Not even on the night of Siffin?” He said, “Not even on the night of Siffin.”
8
Asma’ bint Abi Bakr al-Siddiq served her husband al-Zubayr, and took care of the house. Her
husband had a horse, which she took care of, feeding it and exercising it. She also repaired
the water-bucket, made bread, and carried dates on her head from far away. Al-Bukhaari and
Muslim report this in her own words:
“Al-Zubayr married me, and he had no wealth, no slaves, nothing except his horse. I used to
feed his horse, looking after it and exercising it. I crushed date-stones to feed his camel. I
used to bring water and repair the bucket, and I used to make bread but I could not bake it, so
some of my Ansari neighbors, who were kind women, used to bake it for me. I used to carry
the dates from the garden that the Prophet had given to al-Zubayr on my head, and this
garden was two-thirds of a farsakh away. One day I was coming back with the dates on my
head. I met the Messenger of Allah, who had a group of his Companions with him. He called
me, then told his camel to sit down so that I could ride behind him. I told (al-Zubayr), ‘I felt
shy, because I know that you are a jealous man.’ He said, ‘It is worse for me to see you
carrying the dates on your head than to see you riding behind him.’ Later, Abu Bakr sent me a
servant, who relieved me of having to take care of the horse; it was as if I had been released
from slavery.”
9
The true Muslim woman devotes herself to taking care of her house and husband. She knows
her husband’s rights over her, and how great they are, as was confirmed by the Prophet’s
words:
“No human being is permitted to prostrate to another, but if this were permitted I would
have ordered wives to prostrate to their husbands, because of the greatness of the rights
they have over them.”
10
And:
“If I were to order anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have ordered women to
prostrate to their husbands.”
11
‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) asked the Messenger of Allah : “Who has the
greatest rights over a woman?” He said, “Her husband.” She asked, ‘And who has the
greatest rights over a man?” He said, “His mother.”
12
A woman came to ask the Prophet about some matter, and when he had dealt with it,
he asked her, “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.” He asked her, “How are you
with him?” She said, “I never fall short in my duties, except for that which is beyond me.”
He said, “Pay attention to how you treat him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell.”
13
How can the Muslim woman complain about taking care of her house and husband when she
hears these words of Prophetic guidance? She should fulfill her household duties and take
care of her husband in a spirit of joy, because she is not carrying a tiresome burden, she is
doing work in her home that she knows will bring reward from Allah (subhaanahu wa
‘ta’aalaa). 6
The Sahaabah, may Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) be pleased with them, and those who
followed them understood this Islamic teaching and transmitted it from the Prophet . When
a bride was prepared for marriage, she would be told to serve her husband and take care of
his rights. Thus the Muslim woman knew her duties towards her husband, and down through
the ages caring for her husband and being a good wife were established womanly attributes.
One example of this is what was said by the faqih al-Hanbali ibn al-Jawzi in his book Ahkam
al-Nisa’ (p. 331): In the second century AH there was a righteous man called Shu‘ayb ibn
Harb, who used to fast and spend his nights in prayer. He wanted to marry a woman, and told
her humbly, “I am a bad-tempered man.” She replied, tactfully and cleverly, “The one who
makes you lose your temper is worse than you.” He realized that there stood before him a
woman who was intelligent, wise and mature. He immediately said to her, “You will be my
wife.”
This woman had a clear understanding of how to be a good wife, which confirmed to the man
who had come to seek her hand that she was a woman who would understand the
psychology and nature of her husband and would know what would please him and what
would make him angry; she would be able to win his heart and earn his admiration and
respect, and would close the door to every possible source of conflict that could disrupt their
married life. The woman who does not understand these realities does not deserve to be a
successful wife; through her ignorance and shortcomings she may provoke her husband to
lose his temper, in which case, she would be worse than him, for being the direct cause of his
anger.
The tactful Muslim woman is never like this. She helps her husband to be of good character,
by displaying different types of intelligence, cleverness and alertness in the way she deals
with him. This opens his heart to her and makes him fond of her, because being a good wife
is a not only a quality that she may boast about among her friends, but it is also a religious
obligation for which Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) will call her to account: if she has done
well, she will be rewarded, but if she has fallen short she will have to pay the penalty.
One of the most important ways in which the Muslim woman obeys her husband is by
respecting his wishes with regard to the permissible pleasures of daily life, such as social
visits, food, dress, speech, etc. The more she responds to his wishes in such matters, the
happier and more enjoyable the couple’s life becomes, and the closer it is to the spirit and
teachings of Islam.
The Muslim woman does not forget that her obedience to her husband is one of the things
that may lead her to Paradise, as the Prophet said:
“If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadan), obeys her
husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise by whichever
of its gates you wish.’”
14
Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her) said:
“The Messenger of Allah said: ‘Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with
her, will enter Paradise.’”
15
The Prophet draw a clear and delightful picture of the well-behaved, easy-going, loving,
righteous Muslim wife, one who will be happy in this world and the next:
“Shall I not tell you about your wives in Paradise?” We said, “Of course, O Messenger of
Allah.” He said, “They are fertile and loving. If she becomes angry or is mistreated, or her
husband becomes angry, she says, ‘My hand is in your hand; I shall never sleep until you are
pleased with me.’”
16
The true Muslim woman knows that Islam, which has multiplied her reward for obeying her
husband and made it a means of her admittance to Paradise, has also warned every woman
who deviates from the path of marital obedience and neglects to take care of her husband,
that she will be guilty of sin, and will incur the wrath and curses of the angels.
Al-Bukhaari and Muslim report from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet said: 7
“If a man calls his wife to his bed and she does not come, and he goes to sleep angry with
her, the angels will curse her until the morning.”
17
Muslim reports from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet said Imam:
“By the One in Whose hand is my soul, there is no man who calls his wife to his bed, and she
refuses him, but the One Who is in heaven will be angry with her, until the husband is pleased
with her once more.”
18
The angels’ curse will befall every woman who is rebellious and disobedient; this does not
exclude those who are too slow and reluctant to respond to their husbands:
“Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) will curse those procrastinating women who, when their
husbands call them to their beds, say ‘I will, I will . . .’ until he falls asleep.”
19
Marriage in Islam is intended to protect the chastity of men and women alike, therefore it is
the woman’s duty to respond to her husband’s requests for conjugal relations. She should not
give silly excuses and try to avoid it. For this reason, several hadeeth urge a wife to respond
to her husband’s needs as much as she is able, no matter how busy she may be or whatever
obstacles there may be, so long as there is no urgent or unavoidable reason not to do so.
In one of these hadeeth, the Prophet said:
“If a man calls his wife to his bed, let her respond, even if she is riding her camel [i.e., very
busy].”
20
And:
“If a man calls his wife, then let her come, even if she is busy at the oven.”
21
The issue of protecting a man’s chastity and keeping him away from temptation is more
important than anything else that a woman can do, because Islam wants men and women
alike to live in an environment which is entirely pure and free from any motive of fitnah or
haraam pleasures. The flames of sexual desire and thoughts of pursuing them through
haraam means can only be extinguished by means of discharging that natural energy in
natural and lawful ways. This is what the Prophet meant in the hadeeth narrated by
Muslim from Jabir:
“If anyone of you is attracted to a woman, let him go to his wife and have intercourse with her,
for that will calm him down.”
22
The warning given to the woman whose husband is angry with her reaches such an extent
that it would shake the conscience of every righteous wife who has faith in Allah (subhaanahu
wa ‘ta’aalaa) and the Last Day: she is told that her prayer and good deeds will not be
accepted, until her husband is pleased with her again. This is stated in the hadeeth narrated
by Jabir from ‘Abdullah:
“The Messenger of Allah said: ‘There are three people whose prayers will not be
accepted, neither their good works: a disobedient slave until he returns to his masters and
puts his hand in theirs; a woman whose husband is angry with her, until he is pleased with her
again; and the drunkard, until he becomes sober.’”
23
When these hadeeth refer to the husband being angry with his wife, they refer to cases in
which the husband is right and the wife is wrong. When the opposite is the case, and the
husband is wrong, then his anger has no negative implications for her; in fact, Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) will reward the wife for her patience. But the wife is still required to
obey her husband, so long as no sin is involved, because there should be no obedience to a
created being if it entails disobedience to the Creator. Concerning this, the Prophet said:
“It is not permitted for a woman who believes in Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) to allow
anyone into her husband’s house whom he dislikes; or to go out when he does not want her
to; or to obey anyone else against him; or to forsake his bed; or to hit him. If he is wrong, then
let her come to him until he is pleased with her, and if he accepts her then all is well, Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) will accept her deeds and make her position stronger, and there 8
will be no sin on her. If he does not accept her, then at least she will have done her best and
excused herself in the sight of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa).”
24
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Another aspect of wifely obedience is that she should not fast at times other than Ramadan
except with his permission, that she should not allow anyone to enter his house without his
permission, and that she should not spend any of his earnings without his permission. If she
spends anything without him having told her to do so, then half of the reward for that spending
will be given to him. The true Muslim woman takes heed of this teaching which was stated by
the Prophet in the hadeeth:
“It is not permitted for a woman to fast when her husband is present, except with his
permission; or to allow anyone into his house except with his permission; or to spend any of
his earnings unless he has told her to do so, otherwise half of the reward will be given to
him.”
25
According to a report given by Muslim, he said:
“A woman should not fast if her husband is present, except with his permission. She should
not allow anyone to enter his house when he is present without his permission. Whatever she
spends of his wealth without him having told her to do so, half of the reward for it will be given
to him.”
26
The point here is the permission of the husband. If a wife gives some of his money in
voluntary charity without his permission, then she will not receive any reward; on the contrary,
it will be recorded as a sin on her part. If she wants to spend in his absence, and she knows
that if he knew about it he would give his permission, then she is allowed to do so, otherwise
it is not permitted.
Mutual understanding and harmony between husband and wife cannot be achieved unless
there is understanding between them on such matters, so that neither of them will fall into
such errors and troubles as may damage the marriage which Islam has built on a basis of
love and mercy, and sought to maintain its purity, care and harmony.
If the husband is a miser, and spends too little on her and her children, then she is allowed to
spend as much as she needs from his wealth on herself and her children, in moderation,
without his knowledge. The Prophet stated this to Hind bint ‘Utbah, the wife of Abu
Sufyan, when she came to him and said, “O Messenger of Allah, Abu Sufyan is a stingy man.
What he gives me is not enough for me and my child, unless I take from him without his
knowledge.” He told her, “Take what is enough for you and your child, in moderation.”
27
Thus
Islam has made women responsible for good conduct in their running of the household affairs.
The Muslim woman understands the responsibility that Islam has given her, to take care of
her husband’s house and children by making her a “shepherd” over her husband’s house and
children. She has been specifically reminded of this responsibility in recognition of her role, in
the hadeeth in which the Prophet made every individual in the Islamic society responsible
for those under his or her authority in such a way that no-one, man or woman, may evade
responsibility:
“Each of you is a shepherd, and each is responsible for those under his care. A ruler is a
shepherd; a man is the shepherd of his family; a woman is the shepherd of her husband’s
house and children. For each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for those
under his care.”
28
The true Muslim woman is always described as being loving towards her children and caring
towards her husband. These are two of the most beautiful characteristics that a woman of any
time or place may possess. The Prophet praised these two characteristics, which were
embodied by the women of Quraysh, who represented the best women among the Arabs in
terms of loving their children, caring for their husbands, respecting their rights and looking
after their wealth with care, honesty and wisdom:
“The best women who ride camels are the women of Quraysh. They are the most
compassionate towards their children when they are small, and the most careful with regard
to their husbands’ wealth.”
29
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This is a valuable testimony on the part of the Prophet , attesting to the psychological and
moral qualities of the women of Quraysh which enhanced their beauty and virtue. This
testimony represents a call to every Muslim woman to emulate the women of Quraysh in
loving her children and taking care of her husband. These two important characteristics
contribute to the success of a marriage, make individuals and families happy, and help a
society to advance.
It is a great honor for a woman to take care of her husband every morning and evening, and
wherever he goes, treating him with gentleness and good manners which will fill his life with
joy, tranquility and stability. Muslim women have the best example in ‘A’ishah (May Allah be
pleased with her), who used to accompany the Prophet on Hajj, surrounding him with her
care, putting perfume on him with her own hands before he entered ihram, and after he
finished his ihram, before he performed tawaf al-ifadah.
30
She chose for him the best perfume
that she could find. This is stated in a number of shih hadeeth reported by Al-Bukhaari and
Muslim, for example:
“I applied perfume to the Messenger of Allah with my own hands before he entered the
state of ihram and when he concluded it before circumambulating the House.”
31
“I applied perfume to the Messenger of Allah with these two hands of mine when he
entered ihram and when he concluded it, before he performed tawaf,” - and she spread
her hands.
32
‘Urwah said:
“I asked ‘A’ishah, ‘With what did you perfume the Messenger of Allah at the time when
he entered ihram?’ She said, ‘With the best of perfume.’”
33
According to another report also given by Muslim, ‘A’ishah said:
“I applied the best perfume I could find to the Messenger of Allah before he entered
ihram and when he concluded it, before he performed tawaf al-ifadah.”
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When the Prophet was in seclusion (i‘tikaf), he would lean his head towards ‘A’ishah,
and she would comb and wash his hair. Al-Bukhaari and Muslim both report this in sahih
hadeeth narrated from ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her), such as:
“When the Messenger of Allah was in i‘tikaf, he inclined his head towards me and I
combed his hair, and he did not enter the house except to answer the call of nature.”
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“I used to wash the Prophet’s head when I was menstruating.”
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‘Aishah urged women to take good care of their husbands and to recognize the rights that
their husbands had over them. She saw these rights as being so great and so important that a
woman was barely qualified to wipe the dust from her husband’s feet with her face, as she
stated: “O womenfolk, if you knew the rights that your husbands have over you, every one of
you would wipe the dust from her husband’s feet with her face.”
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This is a vivid expression of the importance of the husband’s rights over his wife. ‘A’ishah
wanted to bring this to women’s attention, so as to remove from the hearts of arrogant and
stubborn women all those harsh, obstinate feelings that all too often destroy a marriage and
turn it into a living hell.
Honoring and respecting one’s husband is one of the characteristic attitudes of this ummah. It
is one of the good manners known at the time of jahiliyyah that were endorsed by Islam and
perpetuated by the Arabs after they embraced Islam. Our Arab heritage is filled with texts that
eloquently describe the advice given by mothers to their daughters, to care for, honor and
respect their husbands; these texts may be regarded as invaluable social documents.
One of the most famous and most beautiful of these texts was recorded by ‘Abd al-Malik ibn
‘Umayr al-Qurashi, who was one of the outstanding scholars of the second century AH. He
quotes the words of advice given by Umamah bint al-Harith, one of the most eloquent and 10
learned women, who was possessed of wisdom and great maturity, to her daughter on the
eve of her marriage. These beautiful words deserve to be inscribed in golden ink.
‘Abd al-Malik said: “When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected
leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith
ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother Umamah
came in to her, to advise her, and said:
‘O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice
because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been
unnecessary for you, because you possess these qualities, but it will serve as
a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.
‘O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her
father’s wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be
most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as
men were created for them.
‘O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where
you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with
whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you he has become a master over you,
so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.
‘Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.
‘The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and
obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying
one’s husband pleases Allah.
‘The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look
good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything
but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be
found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.
‘The fifth and the sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet
when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his
sleep will make him angry.
‘The seventh and eighth of them are: take care of his servants (or employees)
and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows
that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows
good management.
‘The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never
disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never
feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be
filled with hatred towards you.
‘Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset,
and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former
shows a lack of judgment, whilst the latter will make him unhappy.
‘Show him as much honor and respect as you can, and agree with him as
much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.
‘Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until
you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever
you like and dislike. And may Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) choose what is
best for you and protect you.’”
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She was taken to her husband, and the marriage was a great success; she gave birth to kings
who ruled after him.
This advice clearly included everything that one could think of as regards the good manners
that a young girl needs to know about in order to treat her husband properly and be a suitable
companion for him. The words of this wise mother deserve to be taken as the standard for
every young girl who is about to get married.
If she is rich, the true Muslim woman does not let her wealth and financial independence
make her blind to the importance of respecting her husband’s rights over her. She still takes
care of him and honors him, no matter how rich she is or may become. She knows that she is
obliged to show gratitude to Allah for the blessings He has bestowed upon her, so she
increases her charitable giving for the sake of Allah. The first person to whom she should give
generously is her own husband, if he is poor; in this case she will receive two rewards, one for
taking care of a family member, and another for giving charity, as the Prophet stated in the
hadeeth narrated by Zaynab al-Thaqafiyyah, the wife of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud (RAA):
“The Prophet told us: ‘O women, give in charity even if it is some of your jeweler.’ She
said, ‘I went back to ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud and told him. ‘You are a man of little wealth, and
the Prophet has commanded us to give charity, so go and ask him whether it is
permissible for me to give you charity. If it is, I will do so; if it is not, I will give charity to
someone else.’ ‘Abdullah said, ‘No, you go and ask.’ So I went, and I found a woman of the
Ansaar at the Prophet’s door, who also had the question. We felt too shy to go in, out of
respect, so Bilal came out and we asked him, ‘Go and tell the Messenger of Allah that there
are two women at the door asking you: Is it permissible for them to give sadaqah to their
husbands and the orphans in their care? But do not tell him who we are.’ So Bilal went in and
conveyed this message to the Prophet , who asked, ‘Who are they?’ Bilal said, ‘One of the
women of the Ansaar, and Zaynab/’ The Prophet asked, ‘Which Zaynab is it?’ Bilal said,
‘The wife of ‘Abdullah.’ The Prophet said: ‘They will have two rewards, the reward for
upholding the relationship, and the reward for giving charity.’”
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According to a report given by
Al-Bukhaari, he said, “Your husband and your child are more deserving of your charity.”
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The true Muslim woman is always careful to give thanks for Allah’s blessings if her life is
easy, and she never loses her patience if she encounters difficulty. She never forgets the
warning that the Prophet issued to women in general, when he saw that most of the
inhabitants of Hell will be women, and so she seeks refuge with Allah from becoming one of
them.
Al-Bukhaari and Muslim narrated from Ibn ‘Abbas (RAA) that the Prophet said: “O
women, give charity, for I have surely seen that you form the majority of the inhabitants of
Hell.” They asked, ‘Why is this so, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because you curse
too much, and are ungrateful for good treatment (on the part of your husbands).”
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According to another report given by Al-Bukhaari, he said, “because they are ungrateful for
good and kind treatment. Even if you treated one of them (these ungrateful women) well
for an entire lifetime, then she saw one fault in you, she would say, ‘I have never seen
anything good from you!’”
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According to a report given by Ahmad, a man said, “O Messenger of Allah, are they not
our mothers and sisters and wives?” He said, “Of course, but when they are treated
generously they are ungrateful, and when they are tested, they do not have patience.”
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When the true Muslim woman thinks about these sahih hadeeth which describe the fate of
most women in the Hereafter, she is always on the alert lest she fall into the sins of
ingratitude towards her husband, or frequent cursing, or denying her husband’s good
treatment of her, or forgetting to give thanks for times of ease, or failing to be patient at
times of difficulty. In any case, she hastens to give charity as the Prophet urged all
women to do, in the hope that it may save them from that awful fate which will befall most
of those women who deviate from truth and let trivial matters distract them from 12
remembering Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) and the Last Day, and whose bad qualities
will ultimately lead them into the Fire of Hell. The Muslim woman, on the other hand, sets
the highest example of respect towards one’s husband and taking note of his good
qualities. This is the attitude of loyalty that befits the true Muslim woman who respects her
husband’s rights and does not ignore his virtues.
Muslim women’s history is full of stories that reflect this loyalty and recognition of the good
qualities of the husband. One of these stories is that of Asma’ bint ‘Umays, who was one of
the greatest women in Islam, and one of the first women to migrate to Madinah. She was
married to Ja‘far ibn Abi Talib, then to Abu Bakr al-Siddiq, then to ‘Ali, may Allah be pleased
with them all. On one occasion, her two sons Muhammad ibn Ja‘far and Muhammad ibn Abi
Bakr were competing with one another, each of them saying. “I am better than you, and my
father is better than your father.” ‘Ali said to her, “Judge between them, O Asma’.” She said, “I
have never seen a young man among the Arabs who was better than Ja‘far, and I have never
seen a mature man who was better than Abu Bakr.” ‘Ali said, “You have not left anything for
me. If you had said anything other than what you have said, I would have hated you!” Asma’
said: “These are the best three, and you are one of them even if you are the least of them.”
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What a clever and eloquent answer this wise woman gave! She gave each of her three
husbands the respect he deserved, and pleased ‘Ali, even though he was the least of them,
because she included all of them in that group of the best.
She treats his mother and family with kindness and respect
One of the ways in which a wife expresses her respect towards her husband is by honoring
and respecting his mother.
The Muslim woman who truly understands the teachings of her religion knows that the person
who has the greatest right over a man is his mother, as we have seen in the hadeeth of
‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) quoted above. So she helps him to honor and
respect his mother, by also honoring and respecting her. In this way she will do herself and
her husband a favor, as she will helping him to do good deeds and fear Allah (subhaanahu
wa ‘ta’aalaa), as commanded by the Qur’aan. At the same time, she will endear herself to her
husband, who will appreciate her honor and respect towards his family in general, and
towards his mother in particular. Nothing could please a decent, righteous and respectful man
more than seeing strong ties of love and respect between his wife and his family, and nothing
could be more hateful to a decent man than to see those ties destroyed by the forces of evil,
hatred and conspiracy. The Muslim family which is guided by faith in Allah (subhaanahu wa
‘ta’aalaa) and follows the pure teachings of Islam is unlikely to fall into the trap of such jahili
behavior, which usually flourishes in an environment that is far removed from the true
teachings of this religion.
A Muslim wife may find herself being tested by her mother-in-law and other in-laws, if they are
not of good character. If such is the case, she is obliged to treat them in the best way
possible, which requires a great deal of cleverness, courtesy, diplomacy and repelling evil
with that which is better. Thus she will maintain a balance between her relationship with her
in-laws and her relationship with her husband, and she will protect herself and her marriage
from any adverse effects that may result from the lack of such a balance.
The Muslim woman should never think that she is the only one who is required to be a good
and caring companion to her spouse, and that nothing similar is required of her husband or
that there is nothing wrong with him mistreating her or failing to fulfill some of the
responsibilities of marriage. Islam has regulated the marital relationship by giving each
partner both rights and duties. The wife’s duties of honoring and taking care of her husband
are balanced by the rights that she has over him, which are that he should protect her honor
and dignity from all kinds of mockery, humiliation, trials or oppression. These rights of the wife
comprise the husband’s duties towards her: he is obliged to honor them and fulfill them as
completely as possible.
One of the Muslim husband’s duties is to fulfill his role of qawwaam (maintainer and protector)
properly. This is a role that can only be properly fulfilled by a man who is a successful leader
in his home and family, one who possesses likeable masculine qualities. Such a man has a 13
noble and worthy attitude, is tolerant, overlooks minor errors, is in control of his married life,
and is generous without being extravagant. He respects his wife’s feelings and makes her feel
that she shares the responsibility of running the household affairs, bringing up the children,
and working with him to build a sound Muslim family, as Islam wants it to be.
She endears herself to her husband and is keen to please him
The true Muslim woman is always keen to win her husband’s love and to please him. Nothing
should spoil his happiness or enjoyment of life. So she speaks kind words to him, and refrains
from saying anything hurtful or upsetting. She brings him good news, but she keeps bad news
from him as much as she can, or postpones telling it until a more suitable time when it will not
upset him so much. If she finds that she has no alternative but to tell him upsetting news, she
looks for the most suitable way to convey it, so that the blow will not be so hard on him. This
is the wise approach and good conduct of the clever woman, but it is very difficult to attain
and only a very few virtuous women ever do so.
One of those who did reach this high level was the great Muslim woman Umm Sulaym bint
Milhan, the wife of Abu Talhah al-Ansari. Her son passed away whilst Abu Talhah was
traveling, and her attitude was so unique that if Imam Muslim had not reported this story we
would have taken it to be a mere myth. Let us hear her son Anas ibn Malik tell the story of his
remarkable mother and her attitude:
“A son of Abu Talhah by Umm Sulaym died. Umm Sulaym told her family, ‘Do not tell Abu
Talhah about his son until I tell him about it.’ Abu Talhah came home, so she prepared dinner
for him, and he ate and drank. Then she beautified herself in a way that she had never done
before, and he had sexual intercourse with her. When she saw that he was satisfied, she
said, ‘O Abu Talhah, do you think that if a people lent something to a household, then asked
for it back, do they have the right not to return it?’ He said, ‘No.’ She said, ‘Then resign
yourself to the death of your son.’ Abu Talhah became angry and said, ‘You let me indulge
myself and then you tell me about my son!’ He went to the Messenger of Allah and told
him what had happened. The Messenger of Allah said, ‘May Allah bless both of you for
this night!’ Umm Sulaym became pregnant. The Messenger of Allah went on a journey,
and she accompanied him. Whenever the Messenger of Allah came back from a journey,
he never entered Madinah at night. When they (the traveling-party) approached Madinah, her
labor-pains started. Abu Talhah stayed with her, and the Messenger of Allah went on
ahead to Madinah. Abu Talhah said, ‘O Lord, You know how I love to go out with Your
Messenger when he goes out, and to come back with him when he comes back, and I have
been detained, as You see.’ Umm Sulaym said, ‘O Abu Talhah, I do not feel as much pain as
I did before, so let us go on.’ When they reached (Madinah), her pains-pains started again,
and she gave birth to a boy. My mother said to me, ‘O Anas, nobody should feed him until you
take him to the Messenger of Allah in the morning.’ So when morning came, I took the baby to
the Messenger of Allah , and when I met him he was carrying an iron tool. When he saw
me, he said, ‘I hope that Umm Sulaym has given birth.’ I said, ‘Yes.’ So he put down the tool
and I brought the child to him and placed him in his lap. The Messenger of Allah called for
some of the dates of Madinah. He chewed it until it became soft, then he put it in the baby’s
mouth and the baby began to smack his lips. The Messenger of Allah said: ‘See how
much the Ansaar love dates!’ Then he wiped the baby’s face and named him ‘Abdullah.”
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How great was Umm Sulaym’s faith, and how magnificent her patience and virtue! How
bravely she hid her pain from her husband and endeared herself to him. She managed to
conceal her grief at the loss of her beloved son and spent that time with her husband patiently
hoping that by being a good wife to her husband she might earn the pleasure of Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa). This is true, deep and sincere faith.
Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) answered the Prophet’s prayer for Umm Sulaym and her
husband, and she became pregnant from that night. When she was heavily pregnant, she
saw her husband Abu Talhah preparing to set out on another military campaign with the
Messenger of Allah . She insisted on partaking of the honor of jihad with him alongside the 14
Messenger of Allah , even though she was in the later stages of pregnancy. Her husband
took pity on her because of the difficulties of the journey and the heat of the desert, but he still
asked the Prophet for permission to let her come with him, and he gave his permission
because he knew her strength of character and love of jihad.
Umm Sulaym was present when the Muslims were triumphant at Makkah, and when they
were sorely tested at Hunayn. She stood firm, as solid as a rock, alongside her husband and
the small group of believers around the Prophet , even though she was pregnant, at that
most difficult time when many others had fled, and she remained there until Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) brought victory to the believers.
The mujahid army returned to Madinah, and her labor began. When the pains became
intense, she and her husband stayed behind for a while, but her husband prayed to his Lord
in the still of night because he loved to go out and return with the Prophet . Suddenly the
pains ceased; she told her husband and they set out to follow the army that had gone on
ahead. They caught up with them, and after they had entered Madinah, Umm Sulaym’s labor
pains began anew. She gave birth to a boy, and his brother on his mother’s side, Anas,
brought him to the Prophet , who fed him a small amount of dates (tahnik) and named him
‘Abdullah. The prayer of the Prophet for this baby was fulfilled, as among his descendents
were ten great scholars.
No doubt Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) knew the sincerity of Umm Sulaym’s faith, and
conveyed the good news of Paradise to her via His Prophet :
“I entered Paradise, and heard footsteps. I said, ‘Who is this?’ and they told me, ‘It is alGhumaysa’, the daughter of Milhan, the mother of Anas ibn Malik.’”
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Another example of the ways in which a wife may endear herself to her husband is the way in
which ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) spoke to the Prophet when he came back
to his wives after he had kept away from them for a month. He had said, “I will not go in to
them for a month,” because he was so angry with them. When twenty-nine days had passed,
he came to ‘A’ishah first. ‘A’ishah said to him, ‘You swore to stay away from us for a month,
and only twenty-nine days have passed; I have been counting them.” The Prophet said,
“This month has twenty-nine days.” That particular month had only twenty-nine days.
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‘A’ishah’s telling the Prophet that she had counted twenty-nine days was a clear indication
of her love towards her husband and of how she had waited, day by day, hour by hour, for
him to come back to her. It shows how she loved and missed her husband. This approach
made her even dearer to him, so when he came back to his wives, he started with her.
The sincere Muslim woman recognizes her husband’s likes and habits, and tries to
accommodate them as much as she can, in the interests of mutual understanding and marital
harmony, and to protect the marriage from the boredom of routine. This is what every wise
and intelligent wife does. It was narrated that the qadi and faqih Shurayh married a woman
from Banu Hanzalah. On their wedding night, each of them prayed two rak‘ahs and asked
Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) to bless them. Then the bride turned to Shurayh and said, “I
am a stranger, and I do not know much about you. Tell me what you like, and I will do it, and
tell me what you do not like so I may avoid it.” Shurayh said, “She stayed with me for twenty
years, and I never had to tell her off for anything, except on one occasion, and I was in the
wrong then.”
This is the respectful and loving wife as Islam wants her to be, responsible for her home and
loyal to her husband, and always careful to maintain a good relationship between them. If
anything happens to upset their marriage, she hastens to calm the situation with her sincere
love and wise understanding. She does not listen to the whispering of the Shaytan which calls
her to do wrong, and she never hastens to ask her husband for a divorce. The marriage bond
should be too strong to be undone by temporary arguments or occasional misunderstandings.
The Prophet warned those foolish women who ask their husbands for a divorce with no
legitimate reason that they would be denied even the scent of Paradise: 15
“Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce with no good reason will be deprived of
even smelling the scent of Paradise.”
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She does not disclose his secrets
The chaste Muslim woman does not disclose her husband’s secrets, and does not talk to
anyone about whatever secrets and other matters there may be between him and her. The
serious Muslim woman is above that; she would never sink to the level of such cheap and
shameless talk as goes on amongst the lowest type of people. Her time is too precious to be
wasted in such vulgar behavior. She would never accept for herself to be counted as one of
those people whom the Prophet described as one of the worst types:
“Among the worst type of people in the sight of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) on the Day of
Judgment is a man who enjoys his wife’s intimate company, and she enjoys his intimate
company, then one of them goes and discloses the secret of the other.”
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Talking about that which is private between a husband and wife is one of the most abhorrent
ways of disclosing secrets. No one does such a thing but the worst type of people. There are
some secrets the disclosure of which is not as bad as disclosing this secret, but in any case,
telling secrets at all is disliked and is unacceptable. Keeping secrets in itself is a worthy and
virtuous deed, whilst disclosing them is a serious error and shortcoming, from which nobody
can be immune except the infallible Prophet . The disclosure of a secret that the Prophet
had entrusted to Hafsah, who told it to ‘A’ishah, led to the plotting and intrigue in his
household that caused him to keep away from his wives for a whole month, because he was
so upset with them.
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Concerning this, the following ayah was revealed:
(When the Prophet disclosed a matter of confidence to one of his consorts, and she
then divulged it [to another], and Allah made it known to him, he confirmed part thereof
and repudiated a part. Then when he told her thereof, she said, ‘Who told you this?’ He
said, ‘He told me Who knows and is well-acquainted [with all things].) (Qur’aan 66:3)
The two women concerned are then confronted with their error, and called to repent, so that
they might draw closer to Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) after having distanced themselves
by their deed, otherwise Allah would be his (the Prophet’s) Protector, and Jibril and the
righteous believers would also support him:
( If you two turn in repentance to Him, your hearts are indeed so inclined; but if you
back up each other against him, truly Allah is his Protector, and Gabriel, and [every]
righteous one among those who believe - and furthermore, the angels - will back [him]
up.) (Qur’aan 66:4)
Then they are issued with a stern warning and the terrifying prospect that if they persist in
their error, they may lose the honor of being the wives of the Prophet:
( It may be, if he divorced you [all], that Allah will give him in exchange Consorts better
than you - who submit [their wills], who believe, who are devout, who turn to Allah in
repentance, who worship [in humility], who travel [for Faith] and fast - previously
married or virgins.) (Qur’aan 66:5)
This incident presents a valuable lesson to the Muslim woman on the importance of keeping
her husband’s secret, and the effect this confidentiality has on the stability of the individual
and the home. One of the greatest blessings that Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) has
bestowed on the Muslims in particular, and on mankind in general, is that he has made the
public and private life of His Messenger like an open book, in which can be read the
teachings of this ‘aqeedah and its practical application in real life. Nothing is secret or hidden:
matters and events that people usually keep secret are discussed openly in the Qur’aan and
Sunnah, even unavoidable human weaknesses. All of these issues are presented in order to
teach people right from wrong.
The Sahaabah, may Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) be pleased with them, understood that
the Prophet’s life was entirely devoted to Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) and His message,
so why should they keep secret or conceal any aspect of his life? The stories that have been 16
narrated about his life, his household and his wives represent a practical application of the
words he preached, and for this reason, the Sahaabah (may Allah reward them with all good)
transmitted the most precise details of his life, and did not fail to record any aspect of his daily
life, whether it was major or minor. This is part of the way in which Allah (subhaanahu wa
‘ta’aalaa) caused the life of his Prophet to be recorded, including details of the precise way in
which Islamic teachings were applied in his life. This is in addition to the Qur’aanic references
to the Prophet’s life, which form a record that will remain until heaven and earth pass away.
She stands by him and offers her advice
One of the laws that Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) has decreed for this life is that men and
women should work together to cultivate and populate the earth and run the affairs of life
therein. Man cannot do without woman, and vice versa. Hence the laws of Islam teach men
and women to co-operate in all matters. Islam encourages a man to help his wife, as much as
he is able; the Prophet , who is the example for all Muslims, used to help and serve his
family until he went out to pray, as the Mother of the Believers ‘A’ishah said.
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Just as Islam expects a man to help his wife with housework and running household affairs,
so the woman is also expected to help him in dealing with the outside world and to play her
role in life by offering her opinions and advice, and supporting him in practical terms.
History tells us that Muslim women engaged in jihad side by side with men, marching to war
with them, bringing water to the thirsty, tending the wounded, setting broken bones, stemming
the flow of blood, encouraging the soldiers, and sometimes joining in the actual fighting,
running back and forth between the swords and spears, standing firm when some of the
brave men had fled. Their courageous conduct in battle was praised by the Prophet , as
we have described previously (see pp. 69-91).
However, women’s contribution to public life did not stop on the battlefield; women also stood
side-by-side with men at times of peace, offering their valuable opinions, soothing their hearts
at times of stress and supporting them during times of hardship.
History has recorded many names of great Muslim men who used to seek and follow the
advice of their wives, foremost among whom is the Prophet himself , who sometimes
followed the advice of Khadijah, Umm Salamah, ‘A’ishah and others among his wives.
‘Abdullah ibn al-Zubayr used to follow the advice of his mother Asma’, al-Walid ibn ‘Abd alMalik used to follow the advice of his wife Umm al-Banin bint ‘Abd al-‘Aziz ibn Marwan, and
Harun al-Rashid used to follow the advice of his wife Zubaydah, and there are many other
such examples in the history of Islam.
The true, sincere Muslim woman understands the heavy burden that Islam has placed on her
shoulders, by obliging her to be a good wife to her husband, to surround him with care and
meet his every need, to give him enjoyment, and to renew his energy so that he may fulfill his
mission in life. So she does not withhold her advice when she sees that he needs it, and she
never hesitates to stand by his side, encouraging him, supporting him and offering advice and
consolation.
The first Muslim woman, Khadijah bint Khuwaylid is the best example of a woman who
influenced her husband. The Prophet came to her on the day of the first Revelation,
anxious, trembling and shaking all over. He told her, “Cover me, cover me!” She hastened to
offer her help and support, advising him and thinking of a practical way of helping him. AlBukhaari and Muslim report the story told by ‘A’ishah of how the Revelation commenced, and
the marvelous way in which Khadijah responded by supporting her husband:
“The Revelation started in the form of a dream that came true, he never saw a dream but it
would clearly come to pass. Then he was made to like seclusion, so he would go and stay
alone in the cave of Hira’, praying and worshipping for many nights at a time, before coming
back to his family to collect supplies for another period of seclusion. Then the truth came
suddenly, when he was in the cave of Hira’. The angel came to him and said ‘Read!’ He said, 17
‘I am not a reader.’ [The Prophet said:] ‘The angel embraced me and squeezed me until I
nearly passed out, then released me, and said, ‘Read!’ I said, ‘I am not a reader.’ The angels
embraced me a second time, squeezed me until I nearly passed out, then released me and
said, ‘Read!’ I said, ‘I am not a reader.’ The angel embraced me a third time and squeezed
me until I nearly passed out, then released me and said:
(Read! In the name of your Lord and Cherisher, who created - created man, out of a
[mere] clot of congealed blood: Read! And your Lord is Most Bountiful - He Who taught
[the use of] the Pen - taught man that which he knew not.) (Qur’aan 96:1-5)’”
The Messenger of Allah came back to Khadijah, trembling all over, and said, “Cover me,
cover me!”. They covered him up until he calmed down, then he said to Khadijah, “O
Khadijah, what is wrong with me?” He told her what had happened, then said, “I fear for
myself.” Khadijah said: “No, rather be of good cheer, for by Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa),
Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) would never forsake you. By Allah (subhaanahu wa
‘ta’aalaa), you uphold the ties of kinship, speak the truth, spend money on the needy, give
money to the penniless, honor your guests and help those beset by difficulties. She took him
to Waraqah ibn Nawfal ibn Asad ibn ‘Abd al-‘Uzza, who was her cousin, the son of her
father’s brother. He was a man who had become a Christian during the time of jahiliyyah; he
could write the Arabic script and he had written as much of the Gospel in Arabic as Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) willed. He was an old man who had become blind. Khadijah said
to him, “O Uncle, listen to your nephew.” Waraqah ibn Nawfal said, “O son of my brother,
what has happened?” The Messenger of Allah told him what had happened, and Waraqah
said to him, “This is al-Namus (i.e., Jibril), who was sent down to Musa, upon whom be
peace. I wish that I were a young man, and could be alive when your people cast you out.”
The Messenger of Allah asked, “Will they really cast me out?” Waraqah said, “Yes. No
man has ever come with what you have brought, but his people were hostile towards him. If I
live to see that day I will give you all the support I can.”
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This report is strong evidence of Khadijah’s wifely perfection, wisdom, strength of character,
steadfastness, understanding and deep insight. She knew the Prophet’s outstanding
character, good conduct and purity of heart, and this made her certain that Allah (subhaanahu
wa ‘ta’aalaa) would never forsake a man such as Muhammad or permit any bad fate to
befall him. She knew that behind this remarkable new event that had overwhelmed the
Messenger of Allah lay something great that Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) had
prepared for His Messenger, so she spoke her kind and sweet words of encouragement,
filling him with confidence, tranquility and firm conviction: “Be of good cheer, O cousin, and
stand firm. By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Khadijah, I hope that you will be the
Prophet of this nation.”
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Then she took him to her cousin Waraqah ibn Nawfal, who had
knowledge of the Torah and Gospel, and told him what had happened to the Prophet.
The first Mother of the Believers, Khadijah (May Allah be pleased with her), was a sincere
adviser in the way of Islam to the Prophet . She had already earned the great status and
lasting fame of being the first person to believe in Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) and His
Messenger, and she stood beside her husband the Prophet , supporting him and helping
him to bear the worst oppression and persecution that he faced at the beginning of his
mission; she endured along with him every hardship and difficulty that he was confronted
with.
Ibn Hisham says in his Sirah: “Khadijah had faith, and believed in what he brought from Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa). In this way, Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) helped His Prophet
. Whenever he heard any hateful words of rejection or disbelief that upset him, Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) would cause his spirits to be lifted when he came back to her. She
encouraged him to be patient, believed in him, and made it easier for him to bear whatever
the people said or did. May Allah have mercy on her.”
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She was a woman who always spoke the truth, and carried this burden sincerely. It is no
surprise that she earned the pleasure of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) and deserved to be
honored by Him, so He conveyed the greeting of salam to her through His Messengers Jibril
and Muhammad , and gave her glad tidings of a house in Paradise, as is stated in the
hadeeth narrated by Abu Hurayrah:
“Jibril came to the Prophet and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, Khadijah is coming to you
with vessels containing food and drink. When she comes to you, convey to her the greeting of
salam from her Lord and from me, and give her the glad tidings of a house of pearls in
Paradise, in which there is no noise or hard work.”
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The true Muslim woman puts her mind to good work, thinks hard and gives advice to her
husband at times when he may be most in need of advice. By doing so, she does a great
favor for her husband, and this is one of the ways in which she may treat him well.
Another of these great stories which feature correct advice given by a woman is the reaction
of the Muslims to the treaty of al-Hudaybiyah, and Umm Salamah’s reaction, which
demonstrated her deep insight and great wisdom.
Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her) was one of those who were with the Prophet
when he went to Makkah to perform ‘Umrah in 6 AH. This is the journey that was
interrupted by Quraysh, who prevented the Prophet and his Companions from reaching
the Ka‘bah. The treaty of al-Hudaybiyah was drawn up between the Prophet and Quraysh.
This was a peace-treaty which was intended to put an end to the fighting for ten years; it was
also agreed that if anyone from Quraysh came to Muhammad without the permission of his
guardian, he would be returned, but if any of the Muslims came to Quraysh, he would not be
returned, and that the Muslims would go back that year without entering Makkah, etc.
By virtue of his deep understanding that was derived from the guidance of Allah (subhaanahu
wa ‘ta’aalaa), the Prophet understood that this treaty, which appeared to be quite unfair to
the Muslims, was in fact something good and represented a great victory for Islam and the
Muslims.
The Sahaabah, however, were dismayed when they learned the content of the treaty. They
saw it as unfair and unjust, especially as they had the upper hand at that time. ‘Umar ibn alKhattab expressed the angry feelings of the Sahaabah when he went to Abu Bakr and asked
him: “Is he not the Messenger of Allah?” Abu Bakr said, “Of course.” “Are we not Muslims?”
“Yes.” “Are they not mushrikin?” “Yes.” “Why should we accept this deal which is so
humiliating to our religion?” Abu Bakr warned him, “O ‘Umar, follow his orders. I bear witness
that he is the Messenger of Allah.” Umar said, “And I bear witness that he is the Messenger of
Allah.” Then ‘Umar went to the Messenger of Allah , and asked him questions similar to
those he had asked Abu Bakr. But when he asked, “Why should we accept this deal which is
so humiliating to our religion?” the Prophet replied, “I am the servant of Allah (subhaanahu
wa ‘ta’aalaa) and His Messenger; I will never disobey His command, and He will never
forsake me.”
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Then ‘Umar realized that his haste to oppose the treaty was a mistake. He used to say, “I kept
giving charity, fasting, praying and freeing slaves because of what I had done and said on that
day, until I hoped that ultimately it would be good for me (because it made me perform so
many good deeds).”
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When the Prophet had ratified the treaty, he commanded his Companions to get up,
slaughter their sacrificial animals, and shave their heads, but none of them got up
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. He told
them three times to do this, but not one of them responded. He went to his wife Umm
Salamah, and told her what he was facing from the people. At this point the wisdom and
intelligence of Umm Salamah become quite clear: she told him, “O Messenger of Allah, go out
and do not speak to any of them until you have sacrificed your animal and shaved your head.”
The Prophet took her advice, and did as she suggested. When the Sahaabah saw that,
they rushed to sacrifice their animals, pushing one another aside, and some of them began to
shave one another’s heads, until they were almost fighting with one another because of their
distress and grief, and their regret for having disobeyed the Prophet.
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After that, the Muslims came back to their senses, and they understood the Prophet’s great
wisdom in agreeing to this treaty, which in fact was a manifest victory, because many more
people entered Islam after it than had before. In Sahih Muslim it states that the ayah,
(Verily We have granted you a manifest Victory) (Qur’aan 48:1) referred to the treaty of alHudaybiyah. The Prophet sent for ‘Umar and recited this ayah to him. ‘Umar said, “O
Messenger of Allah, it is really a victory?” He said, “Yes,” so then ‘Umar felt at peace.
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She encourages her husband to spend for the sake of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa)
Another way in which the true Muslim woman supports her husband is by encouraging him to
spend and give charity for the sake of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), and not to waste
money in extravagance and ostentatious purchases, as we see so many ignorant and
misguided women doing.
The alert Muslim woman always wants goodness and success for her husband, so she urges
him to do good deeds, and to do more of them, because she believes that by doing this, she
will increase her honor in this world and her reward in the next.
One of the beautiful stories narrated about a woman’s encouraging her husband to spend for
the sake of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) is the story of Umm al-Dahdah. When her
husband came to her and told her that he had given in charity the garden in which she and
her children used to live, in hopes of receiving a bunch of dates
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in Paradise, she said, “You
have got a good deal, you have got a good deal.” The Prophet commented, “How many
bunches of dates Abu’l-Dahdah will have in Paradise!” and he repeated this several times.
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She helps him to obey Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa)
One of the qualities of the good Muslim wife is that she helps her husband to obey Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) in different ways, especially to stay up and pray at night (qiyaam
al-layl). By doing this, she does him an immense favor, because she reminds him to do
something he might otherwise forget or neglect. Thus she causes him, and herself, to be
covered by the mercy of Allah.
What a beautiful picture the Prophet drew of the married couple helping one another to
obey Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) and do good deeds, and entering into the mercy of
Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) together. This comes in the hadeeth narrated by Abu
Hurayrah (RAA), who said:
“The Messenger of Allah said: ‘May Allah have mercy on the man who gets up at night to
pray and wakes up his wife to pray, and if she refuses, he sprinkles water in her face. And
may Allah have mercy on the woman who gets up at night to pray, and wakes her husband up
to pray, and if he refuses, she sprinkles water in his face.”
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She fills his heart with joy
The clever and sensitive Muslim woman does not forget that one of the greatest deeds she
can do in life, after worshipping Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), is to be successful in
endearing herself to her husband and filling his heart with joy, so that he will feel in the depths
of his heart that he is happy to be married to her, and enjoys living with her and being in her
company. So she uses her intelligence to find ways and means of opening his heart and filling
it with joy and happiness, so that she may become the queen of his heart. She understands
that she is the greatest joy of a man in this world, as is stated in the hadeeth narrated by
‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘As (RAA), in which the Prophet said:
“This world is nothing but temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this world is a
righteous woman.”
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She does not forget that she is the greatest joy in this life for a man, if she knows how to
endear herself to him. If she does not know how to endear herself to him then in most cases
she will be a source of unhappiness and misery to her husband, as was confirmed by the
Prophet :
“Three things make the son of Adam happy, and three make him miserable. Among the
things that make the son of Adam happy are a good wife, a good home and a good
means of transport; the things that make him miserable are a bad wife, a bad home and
a bad means of transport.”
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Hence being a good wife, and endearing oneself to one’s husband, are a part of religion,
because this offers protection to a man by helping him to remain chaste, and strengthens the
foundations of the family, thus bringing happiness to her husband and children.
The Muslim woman by nature likes to endear herself to her husband; in doing so she finds a
way of fulfilling her femininity and her inclinations to make herself attractive. But for the
Muslim woman, the matter goes even further: in seeking to win her husband’s heart, she is
also seeking to earn the pleasure of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), Who has made being a
good wife a part of religion, about which she will be questioned in the Hereafter. So she does
not spare any effort in her loving treatment of her husband: she presents a pleasing
appearance, speaks pleasantly and kindly, and is a clever and likeable companion.
She makes herself beautiful for him
She makes herself beautiful for her husband by means of make-up, clothing, etc., so that she
will appear more beautiful and attractive, and thus make her husband happy. This was the
practice of the righteous women of the salaf, who used to devote their time to worshipping
Allah and reading Qur’aan. Foremost among them were ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with
her) and others; they used to wear fine clothes and jeweler at home and when they were
traveling, in order to make themselves look beautiful for their husbands.
Bakrah bint ‘Uqbah came to ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) and asked her about
henna. ‘A’ishah said, “It comes from a good tree and pure water.” She asked her about
removing body hair, and she said, “If you have a husband, and you could remove your eyes
and replace them with something better, then do it.”
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Let those careless women who neglect their appearance in front of their husbands listen to
the advice of ‘A’ishah, and realize that their beauty should be primarily for their husbands, not
for their friends and peers. Those women who are failing to make themselves beautiful for
their husbands are sinners, because they are falling short in one of the greatest duties of
marriage. Their negligence may be the cause of their husbands staying away from them and
looking at other women.
The wife whose husband only ever sees her with unkempt hair, looking pale and wan and
wearing shabby old clothes, is a foolish and disobedient wife. It will be of no help to her if she
rushes to beautify herself only when receiving guests, or going to a women’s party, but
remains looking shabby most of the time in front of her husband. I think that the Muslim
woman who is truly guided by the teachings of Islam will be safe from such shortcomings,
because she treats her husband properly, and a woman who treats her husband properly is
most unlikely to fail in fulfilling her duty towards him.
It is one of the teachings of Islam that a woman should make herself look beautiful for her
husband, so that her husband should only ever see of her that which he likes. So it is
forbidden for a woman to dress in mourning for more than three days, except in the case of
her husband’s death, when she is permitted to mourn for four months and ten days. We find
proof of this in the hadeeth narrated by Al-Bukhaari from Zaynab the daughter of Umm
Salamah, who said, “I came to Zaynab bint Jahsh, the wife of the Prophet when her
brother died. She called for perfume and applied it to herself, then said, “I am not wearing
perfume because I need to, but because I heard the Messenger of Allah say from the
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“It is not permitted for a woman who believes in Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) and the Last
Day to grieve for more than three days, except for her husband, (for whom she may grieve)
four months and ten days.”
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She is cheerful and grateful when she meets him
One of the ways in which the Muslim woman makes herself attractive to her husband is by
being happy, cheerful, friendly and gentle, thus flooding her husband’s life with joy. When he
comes home exhausted from his work, she greets him with a smiling face and kind words.
She puts her own concerns to one side for a while, and helps him to forget some of his
worries. She appears as cheerful and serene as she can, and expresses her gratitude to him
every time he does something good for her.
The true Muslim woman is fair-minded, and is never ungrateful to any person, because the
teachings of her religion protect her from falling into the error of bad behavior and ingratitude
for favors. How then could she be ungrateful to her husband, her beloved lifelong companion?
She knows well the teaching of the Prophet :
“He does not thank Allah who does not thank people.”
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She understands from this that every person who does good deeds and favors deserves
thanks and recognition, so how could she hesitate or fail to show gratitude to her husband,
especially when she hears the words of the Prophet :
“Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) will not look at the woman who does not thank her husband
at the time when she cannot do without him.”
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She shares his joys and sorrows
Another of the ways in which a woman may endear herself to her husband is by sharing his
joys and sorrows. So she joins him in some of his pastimes, and his daily work, such as
reading, exercise, and attending useful talks and gatherings, and so on, so that her husband
will feel that he is not alone in his enjoyment of the good things in life, but that he is sharing
these pleasures with a loving, intelligent and loyal wife.
The fact that the Prophet raced with ‘A’ishah more than once indicates the fact that Islam
urges both spouses to share their partner’s joy and happiness in life, because this sharing will
have a powerful effect in deepening their feelings for one another and strengthening the
bonds between them.
Just as she shares his joys, so she also shares his worries and concerns, and comes to him
with kind words of consolation, mature and sensible advice and sincere emotional support.
She does not look at other men
The true Muslim woman avoids looking at men other than her husband; she does not stare at
men who are not related to her (i.e. who are not her mahrams), in obedience to the command
of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa):
(And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze . . .) (Qur’aan 24:31).
By refraining from looking at other men, she will be one of those chaste women who restrain
their glances, which is a quality men like in women, because it is indicative of their purity,
decency and fidelity. This is one of the most beautiful characteristics of the chaste, decent,
pure Muslim woman, and this was referred to in the Qur’aan when it speaks of the women of
Paradise and their qualities that are loved by men:
(In them will be [Maidens] chaste, restraining their glances, whom no man or jinn
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She does not describe other women to him
Another of the characteristics of the intelligent Muslim woman is that she does not describe
any of her (female) friends or acquaintances to him, because this is forbidden according to
the words of the Prophet :
“No woman should talk about another woman, or describe her to her husband (so that
it is) as if he sees her.”
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Islam wants people’s hearts to be at peace, and to put a stop to provocative thoughts and
overactive imaginations, so that people may live their lives in a decent and calm fashion, free
from such thoughts and able to go about the tasks and duties for which they were created. No
man should let his mind be occupied with cheap thoughts of the contrast between his wife
and the woman she describes, or let himself become crazy with the embellishments his own
imagination may add to the woman’s supposed beauty. He should not let such foolish talk
stop him from going about his work and usual pastimes, or lead him to temptation and make
him go astray.
She tries to create an atmosphere of peace and tranquility for him
The Muslim woman does not only make herself beautiful for her husband and share his work
and pastimes, but she also tries to create an atmosphere of peace and tranquility in the
home. So she tries to keep a clean and tidy home, in which he will see order and good taste,
and clean, well-mannered, polite children, and where good meals are prepared regularly. The
clever woman also does whatever else she can based on her knowledge and good taste. All
of this is part of being a good Muslim wife as enjoined by Islam.
The true Muslim woman does not forget that according to Islam marriage is one of the signs
of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa). Islam has made the wife a source of tranquility, rest and
consolation for her husband:
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves,
that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between
your [hearts] . . . (Qur’aan 30:21)
Marriage is the deepest of bonds which Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) ties between one
soul and another, so that they may enjoy peace, tranquility, stability and permitted pleasures.
The wife is a source of refuge, security and rest for her husband in a marital home that is filled
with sincere love and compassionate mercy. The truly-guided Muslim woman is the best one
to understand this lofty meaning and to translate it into a pleasant and cheerful reality.
She is tolerant and forgiving
The Muslim woman is tolerant and forgiving, overlooking any errors on the part of her
husband. She does not bear a grudge against him for such errors or remind him about them
every so often. There is no quality that will endear her to her husband like the quality of
tolerance and forgiveness, and there is nothing that will turn her husband against her like
resentment, counting faults and reminding him about his mistakes.
The Muslim woman who is following the guidance of Islam obeys the command of Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa):
(. . . Let them forgive and overlook, do you not wish that Allah should forgive you?. . .)
(Qur’aan 24:22)
Such a woman deserves to be the queen of her husband’s heart and to fill his soul with joy
and happiness.
She is strong in character and wise
Among the most prominent characteristics of the Muslim woman are her strength of
character, mature way of thinking, and serious conduct. These are qualities which the Muslim 23
woman possesses both before and after marriage, because they are the result of her
understanding of Islam and her awareness of her mission in life.
She exhibits this strength of character when she is choosing a husband. She does not give
way to her father’s whims if he has deviated from the right way and is seeking to force her into
a marriage that she does not want. Neither does she give in to the man who comes to seek
her hand in marriage, no matter how rich or powerful he may be, if he does not have the
qualities of a true Muslim husband.
After marriage, her character remains strong, even though she is distinguished by her easygoing nature, mild-tempered behavior and loving obedience to her husband. Her strength of
character comes to the fore especially when she has to take a stand in matters concerning
her religion and ‘aqeedah, as we have seen in some of the narratives referred to previously,
such as Umm Sulaym bint Milhan, who insisted on adhering to Islam along with her son Anas,
although her husband Malik ibn al-Nadar remained a mushrik, opposed to his wife being
Muslim (see p. 166-168); and Umm Habibah bint Abi Sufyan who remained steadfast in her
Islam when her husband ‘Ubayd-Allah ibn Jahsh al-Asadi became an apostate and joined the
religion of the Abyssinians (see p. 98-101); and Barirah who was determined to separate from
her husband whom she did not love, even though the Prophet tried to intervene on his
behalf (see p. 162-163); and the wife of Thabit ibn Qays ibn Shammas, who demanded a
divorce from her husband whom she did not love either, and the Prophet accepted her
request (see p. 162).
The primary motive of these women in taking up such a strong stance was their concern to
adhere to Islam, to keep their belief (‘aqeedah) pure, and ultimately to please Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa).
Each of them was seeking that which is halaal in her married life, and feared committing any
haraam deed, either because she was married to a man who did not share her religious
beliefs, or she was falling short in her duties towards a husband whom she did not love or
could not live with. If it were not for their strength of character and feelings of pride in
themselves and their faith, they would have followed the commands of the misguided
husbands and would have found themselves going astray, choking on the misery of living with
a husband they could not truly accept. The courage of these women shows how the true
Muslim women should be, no matter where or when she lives.
But the Muslim woman’s strength of character should not make her forget that she is required
to obey her husband, treating him with honor and respect. Her strength of character should
make her strike a wise balance in the way she speaks and acts towards him, with no
inconsistency or carelessness. Even in those moments of anger which are unavoidable in a
marriage, she should control herself and restrain her tongue, lest she say anything that could
hurt her husband’s feelings. This is the quality of a strong, balanced character.
‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) represents the highest example of this good quality,
and every Muslim woman should follow her example. The way in which she swore an oath
when she was happy with her husband, the Prophet , was different from the way she
spoke when she was upset with him. This is an example of good manners and respect. It was
something that the Prophet noticed, as she narrated that he said:
“I know when you are happy with me and when you are upset with me.” She said, “How do
you know that?” He said, “When you are happy with me, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of
Muhammad,’ and when you are upset with me, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Ibrahim.’” She
said, “Yes, that is right. By Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), O Messenger of Allah, I only
keep away from your name.”
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What refined manners and sincere love!
‘A’ishah’s strength of character became even more prominent when she was tried with the
slander (al-ifk) which Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) made a test for His Messenger and 24
for all the ummah, raising the status of some and lowering that of others, increasing the faith
of those who were guided and increasing the loss of those who went astray.
Her strength of character and deep faith in Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) became
apparent, and her trust in Him alone to prove her innocence was quite clear. I can find no
more beautiful description of the deep and sincere faith of ‘A’ishah and her trust in the justice
of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), than that given by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah, who said:
“The test was so severe that the Revelation ceased for a month because of it, and nothing at
all concerning this issue was revealed to the Messenger of Allah during that time, so that
the wisdom behind what had happened might become completely apparent and the sincere
believers might be increased in faith and adherence to justice and might think well of Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), His Messenger, the Messenger’s family and those believers who
spoke the truth. The munafiqun, meanwhile, would be increased only in sins and hypocrisy,
and their true nature would be exposed to the Prophet and the believers. ‘A’ishah, the one
who had spoken the truth, and her parents would be shown to be true servants of Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) who had received His full blessing. Their needs for Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) and desire to draw closer to Him would increase; they would feel
humble before Him and would put their hope and trust in Him, instead of hoping for the
support of other people. ‘A’ishah would despair of receiving help from any created being, and
she passed this most difficult test when her father said, ‘Get up and thank him,’ after Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) had sent down a Revelation confirming her innocence. She said,
‘By Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), I will not get up and thank him; I will only give thanks to
Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) Who has revealed my innocence.’
“Another aspect of the wisdom behind the Revelation being suspended for a month was that
people would focus solely on this issue and examine it closely; the believers would wait with
eager anticipation to hear what Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) would reveal to His
Messenger concerning this matter. The Revelation came like rain on parched land, when it
was most needed by the Messenger of Allah and his family, by Abu Bakr and his family,
by the Sahaabah and by the believers, and it brought them great relief and joy. If Allah
(subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) had revealed the truth of the matter from the first instant, then the
wisdom behind this event would have been obscured and a great lesson would have been
lost.
“Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) wanted to demonstrate the status of His Prophet and his
family in His sight, and the honor which He had bestowed upon them. He Himself was to
defend His Messenger and rebuke his enemies, in such a way that the Prophet had
nothing to do with it. Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) alone would avenge His Prophet and
his family.
“The Messenger of Allah was the target of this slander, and the one who was accused
was his wife. It was not appropriate for him to declare her innocence, although he knew that
she was indeed innocent, and never thought otherwise. When he asked people to avenge him
of those who had spread the slander, he said: ‘Who could blame me if I were to punish those
who slandered my family? By Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), I have never known anything
but good from my family, and they have told me about a man from whom I have never known
anything but good, and he never came in my house except with me.’ He had more proof than
the believers did of ‘A’ishah’s innocence, but because of his high level of patience,
perseverance and deep trust in Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), he acted in the appropriate
manner until the Revelation came that made his heart rejoice and raised his status, showing
to his ummah that Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) was taking care of him.
“Whoever examines ‘A’ishah’s response, when her father told her to get up and thank the
Messenger of Allah, and she said, ‘No, I will give thanks only to Allah (subhaanahu wa
‘ta’aalaa),’ will realize the extent of her knowledge and the depth of her faith. She attributed
this blessing to Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) alone, and gave thanks only to Him. She had
a sound grasp of Tawhid, and demonstrated great strength of character and confidence in her
innocence. She was not curious or anxious about the outcome when she spoke thus, 25
because she was sure that she had done nothing wrong. Because of her faith in the Prophet’s
love for her, she said what she said. She became even dearer to him when she said, ‘I will not
give thanks except to Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa), for He is the One Who has revealed
my innocence.’ She displayed remarkable maturity and steadfastness when her dearly
beloved husband, whom she could not bear to be apart from, kept away from her for a month;
then when the matter was resolved and he wished to come back to her, she did not rush to
him, despite her great love for him. This is the highest level of steadfastness and strength of
character.”
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It is indeed the highest level of maturity and strength of character. The true Muslim woman is
humble, kind, loving and obedient towards her husband, but she does not allow her character
to weaken before him, even if he is the most beloved of all people towards her, and the most
noble and honorable of all human beings, so long as she is in the right and is adhering to the
way of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa). ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) set the
highest example of the strength of character of the Muslim woman who is proud of her religion
and understands what it is to be a true servant of Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) alone.
The Muslim woman should interpret ‘A’ishah’s attitude as an attitude of superiority or
arrogance, pushing her husband away. We have already explained the duties of the Muslim
woman towards her husband i.e., obedience, loving kindness and seeking to please him, in
accordance with Islamic teachings. What we learn from the attitude of ‘A’ishah (May Allah be
pleased with her) is the esteem and honor with which Islam regards woman, so long as she
adheres to the laws and teachings of Islam. This is what gives her character strength, pride,
honor and wisdom.
Islam gives women rights and recognition which are envied by Western women when they
hear about women’s rights in Islam (see p. 92), This has been freely admitted by women’s
liberation activists in Arab countries, as we have seen (see p. 58). Many of them have
retracted their claims that Muslim women need to be liberated; one such activist is Dr. Nawaal
El-Saadawi, who was interviewed for the Kuwaiti newspaper al-Watan (mid-August 1989).
Dr. El-Saadawi was asked, “Do you think that the European women are an example to be
copied?” She replied, “No, not at all. European women have advanced in some fields, but are
backward in others. The marriage laws in Europe oppress women, and this is what led to the
development of women’s liberation movements in those countries and in America, where this
movement is very strong and is even at times quite vicious.”
Then she remarked: “Our Islamic religion has given women more rights than any other
religion has, and has guaranteed her honor and pride, but what has happened is that men
have sometimes used certain aspects of this religion to create a patriarchal class system in
which males dominate females.”
Clearly this patriarchal oppression mentioned by Dr. El Saadawi, which has led to the
oppression of women, has been caused by ignorance of the true teachings of Islam.
She is one of the most successful wives
This discussion of the intellectual, psychological and other qualities of the smart Muslim wife
demonstrates that she is a successful wife, if not the most successful wife and the greatest
blessing and good fortune that a man may enjoy.
By virtue of her understanding of Islamic teaching, and her fulfilling her duties towards her
husband, she becomes the greatest joy of her husband’s life: when he comes home, she
greets him with a warm and friendly smile, speaking kindly and sweetly, looking attractive and
smart, with a clean and tidy house, pleasant conversation, and a table full of good food,
pleasing him and making him happy.
She is obedient, kind and loving towards her husband, ever eager to please him. She does
not disclose his secrets or upset his plans. She stands beside him at times of hardship,
offering her support and wise advice. She shares his joys and sorrows. She endears herself 26
to him by the way she looks and behaves, and fills his life with joy and happiness. She
encourages him to obey Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) in different ways, and motivates him
by joining him in different activities. She respects his mother and family. She refrains from
looking at other men. She keeps away from foolish and worthless talk. She is keen to provide
an atmosphere of peace, tranquility and stability for her husband and children. She is strong
of character without being rude or aggressive, and is kind and gentle without being weak. She
earns the respect of those who speak to her. She is tolerant and forgiving, overlooking errors
and never bearing grudges.
Thus the Muslim wife deserves to be the most successful wife. She is the greatest blessing
that Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) may bestow upon a man, and an incomparable source
of joy in this life. The Prophet indeed spoke the truth when he said:
“This world is nothing but temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this world
is a righteous woman.”
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Footnotes:
1. Sahih Muslim 10/56, Kitab al-rida', bab istihbab nikah al-bikr.
2. See Fath al-Bari, 9/194, Kitab al-nikah, bab ikrah al-bint 'ala al-zawaj; Ibn Majah, 1/602,
Kitab al-nikah, bab man zawwaja ibnatahu wa hiya karihah; al-Mabsut 5/2.
3. Fath al-Bari, 9/395, Kitab al-talaq, bab al-khul'.
4. Fath al-Bari, 9/408, Kitab al-talaq, bab shafa'at al-Nabi (r) fi zawj Barirah.
5. A hasan hadith narrated by Tirmidhi, 2/274, Abwab al-nikah, 3; and by Ibn Majah, 1/633,
Kitab al-nikah, bab al-akfa'.
6. Reported by al-Nisa'i with a sahih isnad, 6/114, Kitab al-nikah, bab al-tazwij 'ala'l-Islam.
7. Fath al-Bari, 7/476, Kitab al-maghazi, bab ghazwat Khaybar.
8. See Fath al-Bari, 7/71, Kitab fada'il al-Sahabah, bab manaqib 'Ali ibn Abi Talib; Sahih
Muslim, 17/45, Kitab al-dhikr wa'l-du'a', bab al-tasbih awwal al-nahar wa 'ind al-nawm.
9. See Fath al-Bari, 9/319, Kitab al-nikah, bab al-ghirah.
10. Reported by Ahmad and al-Bazzar; the men of its isnad are rijal al-sahih. See Majma' alZawa'id, 9/4, Bab haqq al-zawj 'ala'l-mar'ah.
11. A hasan sahih hadith, narrated by Tirmidhi, 2/314, in Abwab a-rida', 10.
12. Reported by al-Bazzar with a hasan isnad. See Majma' al-Zawa'id, 4/308, Bab haqq alzawj 'ala'l-mar'ah.
13. Reported by Ahmad and al-Nisa'i with jayyid isnads, and by al-Hakim, who said that its
isnad was sahih. See al-Mundhiri, Al-Targhib wa'l-Tarhib, 3/52, Kitab al-nikah.
14. Reported by Ahmad and al-Tabarani; its narrators are thiqat. See Majma' al-Zawa'id,
4/306, Bab haqq al-zawj 'ala'l-mar'ah.
15. Ibn Majah, 1/595, Kitab al-nikah, bab haqq al-zawj 'ala'l-mar'ah; al-Hakim, 4/173, Kitab albirr wa'l-silah; he said its isnad is sahih. 27
16. Reported by al-Tabarani. Its narrators are those whose reports are accepted as sahih.
See Majma' al-Zawa'id, 4/312.
17. Fath al-Bari, 9/294, Kitab al-nikah, bab idha batat al-mar'ah muhajirah firash zawjiha;
Sahih Muslim, 10/8, Kitab al-nikah, bab tahrim imtina' al-mar'ah min firash zawjiha.
18. Sahih Muslim, 10/7, Kitab al-nikah, bab tahrim imtina' al-mar'ah min firash zawjiha.
19. A sahih hadith narrated by al-Tabarani in al-Awsat and al-Kabir. See Majma' al-Zawa'id,
4/296, bab fi man yad'u zawjahu fa ta'talla.
20. Reported by al-Bazzar, whose narrators are rijal al-sahih. See Majma' al-Zawa'id, 4/312.
21. A hasan sahih hadith narrated by Tirmidhi, 2/314, abwab al-rida', 10, and by Ibn Hibban,
Sahih, 9,473, kitab al-nikah.
22. Sahih Muslim, 9/178, Kitab al-nikah, bab nadab man ra'a imra'atan fa waqa'at fi nafsihi ila
an ya'ti imra'atahu.
23. Reported by Ibn Hibban in his Sahih, 12/178, Kitab al-ashribah, 2, fasl fi'l-ashribah.
24. Reported by al-Hakim, 2/190, Kitab al-nikah; he said its isnad is sahih.
25. Fath al-Bari, 9/295, Kitab al-nikah, bab la ta'dhan al-mar'ah fi bayt zawjiha li ahad illa bi
idhnihi.
26. Sahih Muslim, 7/115, Kitab al-zakah, bab ajr al-khazin wa'l-mar'ah idha tasaddaqat min
bayt zawjaha.
27. Al-Bukhaari & Muslim. See Sharh al-Sunnah, 9/327, Kitab al-'iddah, bab nafaqah al-awlad
wa'l-aqarib.
28. Al-Bukhaari & Muslim. See Sharh al-Sunnah, 9/327, Kitab al-imarah wa'l-qada': bab al-ra'i
mas'ul 'an ra'iyatihi.
29. See Sahih Muslim, 16/81, Kitab fada'il al-Sahabah, bab min fada'il nisa' Quraysh.
30. Tawaf al-ifadah is one of the important rites of Hajj. It is done on the tenth day of Dhu'lHijjah after sacrificing an animal and shaving one's head. [Translator]
31. Sahih Muslim, 8/99, kitab al-Hajj, bab istihbab al-tib qabl al-ihram.
32. Fath al-Bari, 3/585, Kitab al-Hajj, bab al-tib.
33. Sahih Muslim, 8/100, kitab al-Hajj, bab istihbab al-tib qabl al-ihram.
34. Sahih Muslim, 8/100, kitab al-Hajj, bab istihbab al-tib qabl al-ihram.
35. Sahih Muslim, 3/208, Kitab al-hayd, bab jawaz ghusl al-ha'id ra'as zawjiha wa tarjiluhu.
36. Fath al-Bari, 1/403, Kitab al-hayd, bab mubashirah al-ha'id; Sahih Muslim, 3/209, Kitab alhayd, bab jawaz ghusl al-ha'id ra'as zawjiha.
37. Reported as sahih by Ibn Hibban, and with a jayyid isnad by al-Bazzar; its narrators are
well-known and are thiqat. See Ibn al-Jawzi, Ahkam al-nisa', p. 311. 28
38. Jamharah khutab al-'arab, 1/145.
39. Fath al-Bari, 3/328, Kitab al-zakat, bab al-zakat 'ala'l-zawj wa'l-aytam fi'l-hijr; Sahih
Muslim, 7/86, Kitab al-zakat, bab al-zakat 'ala'l-aqarib.
40. Fath al-Bari, 3/325, Kitab al-zakat, bab al-zakat 'ala'l-aqarib.
41. Fath al-Bari, 3/325, Kitab al-zakat, bab al-zakat 'ala'l-aqarib; Sahih Muslim, 2/65, Kitab aliman, bab bayan naqsan al-iman bi naqs al-ta'at.
42. Fath al-Bari, 1/83, Kitab al-iman, bab kufran al-'ashir.
43. Reported by Ahmad, 3/428; its narrators are rijal al-sahih.
44. Al-tabaqat al-kubra, 7/208-209.
45. Sahih Muslim, 16/11, Kitab fada'il al-Sahabah, bab fada'il Umm Sulaym.
46. See Sahih Muslim, 16/11, Kitab fada'il al-Sahabah, bab fada'il Umm Sulaym.
47. From a lengthy hadith narrated by Al-Bukhaari and Muslim. See Fath al-Bari, 5/116, Kitab
al-mazalim, bab al-ghurfah wa'l-'aliyyah al-mushrifah; Sahih Muslim, 7/195, Kitab al-siyam,
bab bayan an al-shahr yakun tis'an wa 'ishrin.
48. A hasan sahih hadith, reported by Tirmidhi, 2/329, abwab al-talaq, 11; Ibn Hibban, 9/490,
Kitab al-nikah, bab ma'ashirah al-zawjayn.
49. Sahih Muslim, 10/8, Kitab al-nikah, bab tahrim ifsha' sirr al-mar'ah; Al-targhib wa'l-tarhib,
3/86, Kitab al-nikah, bab al-tarhib min ifsha' al-sirr bayna al-zawjayn.
50. The story of the Prophet's keeping way from his wives is narrated by al-Al-Bukhaari,
Muslim and others. See Fath al-Bari, 5/116, kitab almazalim, bab al-ghurfah wa'l-aliyyah almushrifah, and 8/656, kitab al-tafsir, Surat al-Tahrim; Sahih Muslim, 7/195, Kitab al-siyam,
bab bayan an al-shahr yakun tis'an wa 'ishrin.
51. See Fath al-Bari, 2/162, Kitab al-adhan, bab man kana fi hajah ahlihi.
52. Fath al-Bari, 1/23, Kitab bad' al-wahy, bab hadith 'A'ishah awwal ma bada'a bihi al-wahy;
Sahih Muslim, 2/197, Kitab al-iman, bab bad' al-wahy.
53. Al-sirah, 1/254.
54. Ibid., 1/257.
55. Al-Bukhaari & Muslim. See Sharh al-Sunnah, 14/155, Kitab fada'il al-Sahabah, bab
manaqib Khadijah.
56. Al-Sirah, 3/331; see also Fath al-Bari, 6/281, Kitab al-jizyah wa'l-mawadi'ah, bab hadith
Sahl ibn Hanif; Sahih Muslim, 12/141, Kitab al-jihad wa'l-siyar, bab sulh al-Hudaybiyah.
57. Al-Sirah 3/331.
58. The Prophet (r) was telling his Companions to end the state of ihram which they had
entered in order to perform 'Umrah. They had been prevented from entering Makkah, and
were to wait until the following year to perform 'Umrah, but they did not want to abandon their 29
hope of performing 'Umrah on this occasion. They did not want to accept the deal that had
been struck with the Quraysh, hence they were reluctant to end their ihram. [Translator]
59. Zad al-Ma'ad, 3:295, al-Tabari, 2/124.
60. Sahih Muslim, 12/141, Kitab al-jihad wa'l-siyar, bab sulh al-Hudaybiyah.
61. See Sahih Muslim, 8/33, Kitab al-jana'iz, bab al-lahd wa nasab al-laban 'ala'l-mayit.
62. Reported by Ahmad and al-Tabarani; its narrators are rijal al-sahih. See also Majma' alZawa'id, 9/324, Kitab al-manaqib, bab ma ja'a fi Abi'l-Dahdah.
63. Reported by Abu Dawud, 2/45, in Kitab al-salah: bab qiyam al-layl, and by al-Hakim
1/309, Kitab salah al-tatawwu'; he said that it is sahih according to the consitions of Muslim.
64. Sahih Muslim, 10/56, Kitab al-rida', bab istihbab nikah al-bikr.
65. Reported by Ahmad, 1/168; its narrators are rijal al-sahih.
66. Ibn al-Jawzi, Ahkam al-Nisa', 343.
67. Fath al-Bari, 9/484, Kitab al-talaq, bab ihdad al-mutawafa 'anha zawjuha.
68. Reported by Al-Bukhaari in al-Adab al-Mufrad, 1/310, Bab man la yashkur al-nas.
69. Reported by al-Hakim in al-Mustadrak, 2/190, Kitab al-nikah; he said it is a hadith whose
isnad is sahih.
70. See Fath al-Bari, 9/338, Kitab al-nikah, bab tabashir al-mar'ah al-mar'ah fatana'atha li
zawjiha.
71. See Sahih Muslim, 15/203, Kitab fada'il al-Sahabah, bab fada'il Umm al-Mu'minin
'A'ishah.
72. Zad al-Ma'ad, 3/261-264.
73. Sahih Muslim, 10/56, Kitab al-rida', bab istihbab nikah al-bikr.
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